Am I a b*tch?

AmandaNic87 · April 2013

I really don't want to call and tell anyone when I go into labor.
Not my mom, not my SOs mom.. not friends, no one.

I want to be completely focused on delivery. Not making sure I call everyone, or thinking about who's in the waiting room, etc.

Certain people have the expectation that I call as soon as something happens, and I'm sorry, but worrying about calling people is the last thing I want on my mind.
SO is the only one who I have put down as a support person so he is the only one who can be in the room anyways until after labor and the hour of skin to skin.

Then once we go to the post-partum room visitors are allowed, but only between 8 am and 8 pm. If I go into labor during the night, and no one can even come anyways, why would I even bother myself to go through making all those calls?? Can't people just wait until we are settled???? I know this has been brought up before but I just got pressured again by someone to call right away and it kind of stressed me out...

evertz · April 2013

I'm not planning to call anyone until I'm fully settled after delivery. I made sure all my important people know that and luckily am not getting much pressure to do otherwise. I know my in-laws would love to wait in the waiting room and come in right a

agytay · April 2013

Really, there is no need to stress. Call people when you are ready. If it is after the baby gets here, then it is fine. It really is that simple.

SparkleButtsMama · April 2013

I totally don't think you are being a b*itch and I totally understand where you are coming from, although you might want to make an exception for your parents and the in-laws.

I was the same way with my DD and in the end it was a moot point bec

huskies09 · April 2013

My husband doesn't want to call anyone until we get home from the hospital! I think we'll call people once baby is out, and maybe some select people before then, but I totally agree with you. I don't want a bunch of people waiting around to barge in th

courtneyt13 · April 2013

No, I don't think so. I didn't mind having family there after my epidural, but during the painful labor I wouldn't have wanted people (family and friends) just staring at me. Anyway, I didn't call anyone, DH did. I would tell your SO it's up to him t

Jorleny · April 2013

We are so not doing that!! I want no one there only SO and that's it. Even after I'm settled in, I want no one around the baby until after two weeks. I want that bonding time with my daughter and SO as a family and no one from his family or my family will

MarchABC · April 2013

Totally reasonable IMHO. My family knew I was in labor but we didn't officially call and ask them to come until right after he was born when we wanted to call everyone we knew to tell them the good news. I was so excited when they got there to meet him ab

Smartie26 · April 2013

You are absolutely, 100% NOT a b*tch for wanting to only focus on you, your labour, and delivering a healthy baby. You should not have to worry about anything or anyone during that very special and sacred time.

We are not telling anyo

Trish&Pete07 · April 2013

No this does NOT make you a ***. I never called anyone when I went in with my first. I went in for an induction Monday morning. DD1 was born early Tuesday morning. I was on the phone with SIL when I went into labour with #2 and I couldn't get a

tondraluv · April 2013

From my experience I completely agree with you. My husband text his & my family & they all came down. Then my mil & sils kept trying to come in the L&D room in the middle of my throwing up & contractions. I asked them to leave

Murraydog · April 2013

With my first, I called my mom and told her we were going to the hospital and she said.....why is someone sick? HAAHAHAH! I said....no, I'm having a baby! LOL! She thought I was one of my sisters because we all kind of sound alike. My in-laws were stay

highlights · April 2013

I'm only planning on calling the people who need to watch DS and the people who need to know at work. Last time we did all sorts of updates and while it didn't end badly, it could have gone better. I didn't want my family to come until after the baby w

Sarahbeth1169 · April 2013

Its funny you brought this up. My husband and I live 780 miles from the nearest family member or friends. My sister called me yesterday and said that she wants me to call when I'm in labor. I told her NO we are not calling anyone til after we have him. Th

AliSarah · April 2013

I think I'm more of a b!tch than you because I'm just smiling and nodding and letting them all think I will call them when I go into labor... Afterwards, I fully intend to say something like "we just got so swept up in the excitement, we forgot, but here'

24ladybug · April 2013

Enjoy the time with your LO. Don't let others take this special time away.
My mom bullied me into saying I would call her when we head to the hospital. She threatened to call several times a day to check on me. So I caved and said I would eventhoug

ToAoShesha · April 2013

I am the same way!! Not being bitchy at all.... luckily for me all of our parents are out of state, so if I feel like it we will text them and let them know I am in labor. But I have so many friends demanding they get a phone call ASAP and I have

PansyPants · April 2013

Last time we didn't tell anyone except my mom (she had to buy a plane ticket and missed everything anyway) until a couple hours after birth. This time I'm reluctantly telling my MIL because she will be watching DS1. I loath the idea of telling people, eve

AMJ6511 · April 2013

Do whatever suits you and don't care what other people think. This isn't about them. I keep debating what to do..who to call. I kinda don't want to tell people until I'm actually in L&D because I'm worried I will create hype and then just get sent hom

MrsMommyofDom · April 2013

Omg Im so glad you posted this and so many people are supportive! I totally agree. I nod at people and say I will notify and think...uh nope. I cant wait for my son to bond with his brother. I really hope I have to go in the night, then it really will be

babyonthebrain2010 · April 2013

nope, I'd be the same way. I'm having a repeat c-section, but if I *do* go into labor we will only be calling my husband's parents because we'll need them to watch our son while we go in.. and probably I'd call my parents just to let them know wh

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · April 2013

Not a b*tch

/gavel

karenthecroccy · April 2013

Not a b!tch. We are quite literally texting one neutral person to inform both of our families and a few friends when it all starts happening. Not that it matters... We aren't expecting hospital visitors. Our families are 3000 miles away. But I don't

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