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Giving up control

willadieselstmwilladieselstm member
in May 2012 Moms

So DS will be 11 months soon, and my MIL has asked numerous times to watch and keep him overnight.  Even like, the week he was born, she wanted to come and take care of him overnight.  Now my relationship with my MIL has always been bad in my eyes.  She is opinionated, disrespectful, stuck up, etc.  There have been many instances where she has gone against what I wanted for Carter to do what she wanted to do.  So I have limited visits thus far to out once, maybe twice a month. 

So yesterday my DH asked if DS could go over there this Saturday and spent the night.  Since he spends the night at my parents house all the time, his parents are starting to wonder why they can't keep him.  I immediately said no, but then I realized that eventually I will half to rip off the band aid and let this happen.  So I gave in, and I asked MIL if she wanted him this Saturday night, and she was so EXCITED!  But I am already dreading Saturday at 5 when I have to take him to their house AN HOUR away. Am I am being over controlling first time mom?  I just can't stand the thought of her taking care of him.  She is so nasty to me, but I know she loves him so much and he will be fine.  But I don't know how to get over this. :( 

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Re: Giving up control

  • stemms8810stemms8810 member

    In all honesty, I wouldn't feel comfortable with the distance.  An hour away isn't terribly far but pretty far for an 11 month old to be spending the night.  I would be freaking out over that aspect plus if I didn't get along well with my MIL

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  • picklesxpicklesx member
    I have some less than ideal feelings toward my in laws as well and I have actually discussed with DH that I am not entirely comfortable with leaving my son with them for an extended amount of time and he has been surprisingly understanding and agreeable.
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  • MelissaMisoMelissaMiso member
    If it were me, I would be think of what my worst fear is with LO being over there then "reality check" the scenario (i.e. is it a truly rational fear or an incredibly unlikely/impossible outcome). For example, if they were alcoholics that have moments of

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  • bellelambbellelamb member
    I guess I'm biased since I haven't and won't leave lo anywhere over night this young! I never did with my other two either, my oldest was three before I left him over night now that's a crazy ftm.

    I would just take a deep breath and remember
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  • DiveFrogDiveFrog member

    We haven't left DD overnight, and honestly I probably won't leave her anywhere overnight until she is old enough to communicate and understand what is happening. I've read a few research papers on young children and nightime/bedtime. The

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    I've never left DD overnight and she's 11 mos. My step mom who is amazing with DD and has babysat for us asked if she could keep her overnight but she lives an hour away and I told her I am not comfortable with it, maybe when she's older. She's the only p
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  • kgaunttkgauntt member
    My DD hasn't stayed anywhere yet overnight and won't until I have this next one. If it wasn't for that, she wouldn't be staying overnight with anyone until she was a lot older.

    Do what you feel comfortable with, but honestly it doesn't sound
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