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It's over....

calibride2005calibride2005 member
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I dont even know where to begin....but in a nutshell, my marriage is over. My husband is in Cali and Im here in Az and it has been the hardest thing to deal with living in 2 different states.

My husband has never dealt with the loss of our daughter last year and has been suppressing it with unnatural means....so until he gets it together and gets help, we are separating. My heart is just broken as I thought if we can make it through a death of a child we can make it through anything. Not so....drugs are a whole different ballgame.

Thanks for listening. I can use all your prayers at this time.

Michelle
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  • hollyweenORhollyweenOR member
    I'm so, so sorry. Strength and peace to you in this hard time.
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  • KateLouiseKateLouise member

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you and your husband are able to find a way forward, but as you say drugs are a complete gamechanger.

    In the meantime look after yourself, and I wish you lots of peace in your journey. Hugs! </p

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  • happywifemomofonehappywifemomofone member
    I am so sorry.....hope that your separation will encourage your husband to get the help that he needs.  Big (((hugs)))
    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
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  • HeathernStevenHeathernSteven member

    I am so sorry! I wish peace for your husband to find his way, and strength for both of you to deal with your loss and seperation. My heart truly goes out to you {{[hugs}}} great big hugs!

    I hope yuo also find a support group to help you both issu

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    3 cycles clomid with Ob,
    1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
    Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
    clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
    1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
    2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
    3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.

    May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN 

    May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't. 

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  • irishgirl0525irishgirl0525 member

    I am so very sorry to hear this.  I hope he is able to get the help that he needs and that all is not lost for either of you.


     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    TTC since 3/2010. Me 41, DH-49. After 3 years, 6 IUIs and several IVFs we have finally have our beautiful baby girl, born on 11/7/13.



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  • QOTRQOTR member
    I'm sorry Michelle.   I wish the best for you and your husband.
    Me-41, Hubby-40.
    1st BFP-8/17/12!  Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US.  D&C.
    2nd BFP-2/13/13!  Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
    3rd BFP-5/22/13!  By early June, progesterone plummeting.  Another loss.
    August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
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  • icogburnicogburn member
    Oh my goodness. I am so very sorry. I am praying for you. May God give you wisdom and strength.
    Me:37 DH:40 Married 7/2009 TTC since 5/2012 
    BFP 4/2013, Our Christmas Miracle Due 12/18/2013
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  • Lenox1975Lenox1975 member
    I am so sorry - I can't even imagine how hard this must be.  Thoughts and prayers to you.
    Me: 37 DH: 37 TTC since Jan 2012. RE consult and initial testing done in Aug 2012: SA fine, AMH 1.1 & HSG clear - on way to IUI but got BFP on 9/10/2012. m/c 10/3/2012 at 6w5d. BFP next cycle which was a c/p. IUI #1: Clomid 100mg 12/6= BFN. IUI#2 (unmedicated) Jan 2013 = BFN. Hysteroscopy 1/25/13. IUI#3 Clomid 100mg 2/23 = BFN IUI# 4: BFN. IVF #1 April 2013, BFP!  EDD 1/12/14 with Boy!
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  • Jacque SillsJacque Sills member
    Michelle,  I am so sorry that you are going through this....hopefully, your husband can get the help he needs and you two can find your ways back to eachother....May you find peace in this tuff situation and please take care of yourself.....know that
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  • svega232svega232
    I am SO sorry for your loss and the situation with your husband. I pray that he gets help and that you are blessed with a beautiful, healthy baby & marriage!
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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    My heart is breaking for you. That is tough, I really hope he can get some help and you two are back together again. I'm sure it will be a bumpy journey but you guys are in my thoughts. Take care of yourself and I hope you have a friend or someone that yo

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • mlampingmlamping member
    So sorry Michelle! That is one of the hardest things! So sorry about your dd too. I cannot imagine your pain. I am sending thoughts and prayers your way and wish you all the happiness in the world! 
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  • MsJazzy73MsJazzy73 member
    I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I truly hope and pray that he takes this time as a sign to get help and move forward. I also pray for strength for you as well, during such a difficult time.
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  • mccall0113mccall0113 member
    Best of luck to you on the future, whatever that may hold.  Addiction is a disease I do not wish on anyone.  
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