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Would You Say Something?

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We were visiting DH's parents for Easter and I was telling my MIL a cute story about DD.  After I finished the story my MIL said, "That little $hit!" in reference to DD.  This is not the first time she has said this I would say she's said it 4-6 times in the last 2.5 years.  It really bugs me even though I know she doesn't mean anything by it.  I didn't like it when she used to call my dog that much less my daughter.  It's perplexing because she hardly ever swears, sees it as a sin in fact, is a caring woman who loves her grandbabies dearly, so I just don't see why she says things like this.  She's never said it in front of DD, so that's not a concern of mine, but I just don't like it.  DH has reluctantly agreed to say something to her if he is ever present when she says it, but so far has not been.  I could say something, but she is so emotional, she would probably burst into tears, and I would spend the next 30 min having to listen to her tell me that she didn't mean anything by it and how much she loves her granddaughter, etc.  But it almost makes me feel like a bad mother to allow someone to say something like that even if it's not meant to be negative.  Hope that makes sense.  Plus I feel like if I ask DH to say something it will make it worse because she will be thinking, "Why didn't my daughter-in-law say something as opposed to having my son say it?"  I don't know, thoughts?
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  • mamaHippo23mamaHippo23 member
    Eh, not sure if this is a battle worth fighting. As long as she continues not to curse around the kids, then I would probably just ignore it. Unfortunately you can't change every annoying habit.
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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    Little_shit is a term of endearment. I call DS one all the time. Why does it bother you so much?
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    imagemamaHippo23:
    Eh, not sure if this is a battle worth fighting. As long as she continues not to curse around the kids, then I would p
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  • sschwegesschwege member

    imagemabenner1:
    Little_shit is a term of endearment. I call DS one all the time. Why does it bother you so much?
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  • Kyleedawn08Kyleedawn08 member
    unlike everyone else, i wouldn't like it either. i would probably start hinting that i didn't like it, not be so blunt unless it was my own mother. if she says it, just say "oh no, she is such a sweet baby" or if baby is there say to the baby "oops don't
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  • ChristyMLChristyML

    imageKyleedawn08:
    unlike everyone else, i wouldn't like it either. i would probably start hinting that i didn't like it, not be so
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  • this decaf lifethis decaf life member

    imageJandACoffee:
    I think I've said it about my own DD so probably not... That is just how terms of endearment go in my family. </d
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  • itsmevkbitsmevkb member

    In matters with mothers-in-law I have learned to accept quite a bit and save my fights for really big things (like, yes, the kids have to be in a car seat every.single.time they are in the car vs she lets them eat donuts instead of apples as a snack on

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  • gnomemomgnomemom member
    Why don't you just be up front with her? Next time she says it, grimace a bit and say "I know you mean that affectionately, but I cringe every time I hear you call her that." Maybe offer up some other phrases for her to try out, as she probably isn't putt

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  • sschwegesschwege member

    imageKyleedawn08:
    unlike everyone else, i wouldn't like it either. i would probably start hinting that i didn't like it, not be so
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    imagemamaHippo23:
    Eh, not sure if this is a battle worth fighting. As long as she continues not to curse around the kids, then I wo




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  • peacelove&mamapeacelove&mama member
    I call my kids little sh!ts all the time. Not to them, or course, but to DH. Think, "your son learned how to pull my hair today, the little sh!t"... Nothing negative meant by it at all, just a joking around thing. If it truly bothers you that much then br
     

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