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No CS coming my way

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The divorce was final a week and a half ago.

XH lost his job last week.

He supposedly interviewed for a job, but has not heard back if he's got it. I am not hopeful. He is currently working for a friend. No doubt that it is under the table.

I see this clearly for what it is.  He's going to work under the table for as long as he can and I will not see any child support.

So what would you all do? At what point do you take this to the next level?  I'm thinking that if I see nothing this month from him, I give him a warning in writing that he needs to pay CS, or I will not meet him half way for the exchange every other week. He will have to start coming to me. 

It's a measely $250, I can afford to raise my own child just fine on my own, but once again, XH is getting out of his responsibilities. Sort of.  I really don't feel it's fair for me to have to meet him half way when I am doing all the raising and all the compromising.  What I will find quite amusing is how he stated last month how he wanted to pay CS on his own, not have it taken from his check because he can budget his money better. Okay. Well let's see how well you do bubba.  I'm betting you'll fail right out the gate.

It's early in the game, but I know where this is going.  I just want to do this smartly.  Teach me what you know.  And if it matters...XH will not take me to court. He can't afford it nor do I believe he has it in him until he finds another rich girlfiend to pay his way again. 

Thoughts?

"he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • 10-4LilBuddy10-4LilBuddy member
    He is such an idiot weasel.

    What does it say in your CO? Does it say you meet halfway? If so, then do it although I have a feeling that he will be passing on weekends soon. I think you mentioned having CS pmt method in your CO too? I wou
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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    I would continue to meet him half way. My attorney cautioned against setting a precedent for what I was willing to do (meeting my XH halfway-ish) and then stopping because he wasn't holding up his end of things. She (my attorney) said that it would giv

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  • IlumineIlumine member
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    I would continue to meet him half way. My attorney cautioned against setting a precedent for what I was willing t

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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
    Ex only pays 20 a week. Its taken out of his check and his girlfriend works now so he has dropped hours in order to pay as least in cs as possible. I am confident soon he will "get fired" and allow gf to continue to support his sorry . At least its not me
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  • 2chatter2chatter member

    I found that the best course for my sanity was to disengage.  Like you, I don't depend on CS.  Getting a divorce was like getting a giant raise.  Early on I found that even discussing CS felt just like being married.  I had to liste

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  • +just+j++just+j+ member

    It's been less than 2 weeks. Way too early, yes, but I just want to know what to do because I know - and you all know - where this is going. 

    The CO states I meet him  half way and the CS is to come directly out of his p

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    I found that the best course for my sanity was to disengage.  Like you, I don't depend on CS.  Getting a d

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  • Karma1969Karma1969 member
    In most states hold support and parent time are two separate matters.

    I wouldn't want to drive half way but if that's what's the agreement you signed said to do you should do it. My guess is that he'll flake on all the parenting time rega
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  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member

    If your CO says you will meet than I would continue to meet. That way he is the only one breaking the CO not you.

     In the early days, BD never paid his CS on time or hardly at all. He worked odd jobs and was paid under the table. It was only

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  • +j+k++j+k+
    Those are exactly my thoughts too gin. I get more upset for DD.

    XH says he doesnt want some other guy to take his place. well be a dad then! I have made it so easy on him and he cannot even meet the least of the requirements.
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  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member
    imageKarma1969:
    In most states hold support and parent time are two separate matters.

    I wouldn't want to drive half way
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  • mccall0113mccall0113 member
    If it's not court ordered.... stop driving now.   That's my opinion, but I'm a b!tch, just ask my XH!  And then I would catch him working under the table and report him.  
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