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Wife upset about failed birth plan
My wife and I had a baby a little over 6 months ago and there is still alot of disappointment and anger as to the failure of my wife's birth plan. I know that i was not as active as i should have been during the birth process and she often times will take any opportunity to tell me that she feels that the failure was my fault. How do I help her to be ok with herself and the beautiful baby that we had as a result. Her feelings of failure are getting more and more severe despite the time passing and now her only goal is to get pregnant again so she can "fix it". What advice does anybody have on how to talk with her?
Struggling Dad
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Re: Wife upset about failed birth plan
A huge percentage of birth plans are altered during L/D. I would think that any woman who takes the time to research and develop a birth plan would know that. The act of childbirth does not fall into a neat process like a project at work or at ho
a plan is just that... a plan, not a guarantee. it's always a best case scenario when you go in, but things change. we had a birth plan in place for things we wanted, but if I go back and look at it, I can probably find a few things that di
I would add that you might want to remind your wife that while she is expressing this disappointment and anger over the birth plan she is wasting energy that could be used embracing every single moment that you have with your little baby. our LO just t
TTC #1 since 3/2011
DX: anovulatory and severe MFI
DH is a testicular cancer survivor
IVF#1 w/ICSI lupron, gonal f, ovidrel
ER 6/15/12 6R 6M 6F! ET 6/20/12
Beta #1: 154 Beta #2: 509 Beta #3: 7326
Baby Boy born 3/1/2013
TTC#2: 6/2014 all testing came back normal
IVF#2 (#1 for LO#2) 9/2014 - 17R 10M 10F 4 blasts frozen on day 6.
FET #1 10/15/14 - Beta #1: 216 Beta #2: 823
Baby Boy born 7/10/2015
As others have noted, if you have a healthy baby and a healthy wife, Chyild Birth was a success. Birth Plans that set requirements like "I will not have a C-Section" or "I will have a childbirth vaginally without the use of an epidural" really do set u
The title "birth plan" needs to be changed to "I have an idea of what I want, but ultimately just get this kid out of me". Ok, so that's a long title, but that's what it comes down to. FTM's have an idea of a perfect birth followed by a glowing moment
I'm going to say it because no one else will: I can see why she might think you're at fault. That doesn't mean it's right or that I have ever felt that way towards my DH.
To explain the feeling from a woman's perspective: you were there, you kn
Rich...
I am still pregnant with my first, so maybe I am not equipped to judge, but our natural birth class talked at length about how traumatic it is for the birth to not go as planned. It is important to have an idea of what you want the birth to look like,