"We had another so s/he had someone to play with"

Sprite2012 · March 2013

Title for Mobile Bumpies: "We had another so s/he had someone to play with"

Does that excuse bother anyone else? I would feel like crap about myself if my parents brought me into this world to serve as a playmate. Since I've had LO, I've heard this at least 10 times...."who will he play with?"

So annoying. That's all.

Chapter79 · March 2013

Yup, annoys me. People seem to fail to realize siblings aren't always close. I'm close to my brothers now that we're grown, but we actually never really played with each other when we were smaller. We were a bit far in age, so we had nothing i

EastCoastBride · March 2013

If that's seriously THE reason to have another child, it's a stupid reason. If it's one of a list of reasons - the most important reason being "we simply WANT 2 kids" - eh, whatever.

But yeah.... it's dumb. There is NO guarentee that

ferris0906 · March 2013

Agreed.

Go to the park, a kid gym, school, etc and have your kid make a friend. There are plenty of other playmates out there that can go home to their own parents at the end of the day!

missymo · March 2013

Yes, it's so annoying! So assumptive.

Sure, plenty of siblings grow up to be friends, but LOTS of people grow up to be doctors too. I wouldn't have another kid just because I want a doctor in the family.

Like PP said, if i

MonkeySender · March 2013

It doesn't annoy me because that is what held me back for a long time on deciding for sure if I was done. Not so much for her to have a playmate, but someone to lean on through hard times. My parents have had a lot of health issues and I have always been

EastCoastBride · March 2013

Hav=Fath:
Coming from a mom that desperately wants another child, it doesn't bother me at all, they're not creating a human ju

kristennd · March 2013

We have a family member who insists this is why we must have a second. This reason and only this reason. It's child abuse to not give him a sibling, regardless of what we want for ourselves.

The best part is when she says "It's so gratifying to s

EastCoastBride · March 2013

kristennd:
The best part is when she says "It's so gratifying to see my children getting along now!" Meaning that, in their mi

Chapter79 · March 2013

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jehprb · March 2013

Bothers me too but DS is 7 now and I've had a hysterectomy so people have stopped saying it to me, lol.

There are lots of reasons people choose to/not to expand their family and mine is none of anyone's damn business, ya know?

A

Sprite2012 · March 2013

kristennd:
We have a family member who insists this is why we must have a second. This reason and only this reason. It's ch

pastalady · March 2013

It makes me feel like they are lazy parents lol! My friend babysat DD once and said "I forgot that with one you actually have to play with them. That's why we had 2 a year apart, so we wouldn't have to play with them". Um, okay?

grrl79 · April 2013

I've been hearing that too. Other than for DD to have someone when she's older to help deal with aging parents, I don't think a "playmate" is a good enough reason. I was the only girl inbetween 2 boys - I was tortured by my older brother an

salt78 · April 2013

pastalady:
It makes me feel like they are lazy parents lol! My friend babysat DD once and said "I forgot that with one you act

salt78 · April 2013

M&MHaveMyHeart:
It annoys me too!
That & "he looks like he wants another sister." Um, yeah, okay--a bright

Everyusernameistaken · April 2013

Hav=Fath:
Coming from a mom that desperately wants another child, it doesn't bother me at all, they're not creating a human ju

PunkyBooster · April 2013

I hear this all the time- and "I want them to be best friends, so I have to have 2u2!" which is even weirder to me.

With that said, we are not OAD, however, we'll have quite a few years between sibs and I don't

Ms.Jade · April 2013

Yep. Because we all know people who don't play with their siblings as children, and aren't able to "lean on" their siblings as adults. Just dumb.

beautiflaw · April 2013

Erm... she'll play with kids at daycare, kids at school, at church, her cousins, me and her dad, kids she takes extra curricular classes with, kids she plays sports with...

and she'll probably also be just fine playing on her own. I had a siblin