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mightmom13 · April 2013

You would think that the feeling of shock wouldn't have an affect on me anymore. I went with facts, I answered questions, I had things wrote down (not even all of which I went into as I was gaging them as I went)...and I was still met with "we don't think she is delayed, we have watched tons of grandkids/cousins/nephews/nieces - some worse off - develop and she is fine...some kids talk and walk late, Montessori says to play as the parents act - sweep, clean, cook in the kitchen - maybe she outgrew her toys, we just don't see it, how many doctors are you going to see until YOU find something wrong with her, you really think she needs this and that (I am not the darn doc, heck if I know)." And the kicker - "explain to us how we can be supportive, exactly, give us an example - give her her medicine?"

You are parents...just flippin be supportive, do I really need to explain that?! WTH. Seriously. If your kid wants to do something, is doing something, is going through something - does being supportive mean giving out chores? No. Be there for them, don't roll your eyes or say stupid stuff. Now they want to sit down and talk about things between themselves, mull it over. Mull what over - who is "right or wrong" here of which there is no answer.

It wasn't a fight or anything, my mom took notes to google which means restricing her healthcare access to DDs stuff - she has taken her in without consulting me before. I know this is Autism Awareness month, but I couldn't even answer their question as to what the new doc I want to see specializes in - because the answer would be autism. I tried to work around it, then we got into what "behavioral health" means.

I am glad I tried again, I feel horrible I didn't advocate better duing the talk for ASD/PDD/SPD for every parent/kid who deals with this stuff, and now I am just confused. I am a single parent, so though I feel for myself, I don't know how you all with DHs/partners do it.

ToastieSimons · April 2013

I'm sorry. Do you live with your parents? I could imagine how hard it would be to live with someone that unsupportive.

It's hard. But at some point you have to let go and just know that you tried. Let them love her as they

preggersINschool25 · April 2013

I can commiserate. My MIL has been pretty awful when it comes to Grant's feeding issues and other problems. It is like she has blinders on. Her comments hurt and are frustrating. I have just stopped talking about medical stuff with her and I no longer

mightmom13 · April 2013

ToastieSimons:
I'm sorry. Do you live with your parents? I could imagine how hard it would be to live with someone

mightmom13 · April 2013

preggersINschool25:
I can commiserate. My MIL has been pretty awful when it comes to Grant's feeding issues and other problem

kcisthebombdotcom · April 2013

I've had the same conversation word for word with my parents. I just stopped talking to them about it and things are much better. Unfortunately they are just incapable to be a support system in this so I go elsewhere to talk about dds issues.

teacherjulie · April 2013

I have this issue with my inlaws. My daughter only had a speech delay but they refused to understand and accept she needed help. We also went for autism testing and to be honest we did not tell them. They refuse to see that there might b