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Meet the Baby Party - WDYT?

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I'm pregnant with our second - due in June.  My sister is pregnant with her first - due in Aug.  My SIL(brother's wife) is pregnant with her second - due in Sept.  We're Chinese, and it's tradition to have a party about a  month or two after the baby is born, so I guess this is like a meet the baby party.  It's held for every child, so it's not like a shower for a first time mom.  In my family, it's a huge meal at a restaurant, hosted by the grandparents of the new baby.  There are some traditional foods served, etc.  We usually put "no gifts" on the invitation, but the more traditional(older) guests will bring money or gold jewelry.  I have a large family - DD's party was 60-70 people.

So, my mom suggested to me that we have a combined party with all three new babies after SIL has her baby.  My parents don't feel up to hosting 3 separate parties which would be hard to schedule since we are all due within a month or two of each other.  The guest list for the combined party would be probably close to 200 people since it would include our family, everyone's ILs, and close friends.  DH and I said fine, SIL/brother said fine.  My sister wants her own party, and does not want to share with us.  I'm wondering if this is because it's her first baby.  However, I did tell her that mom and dad are paying, so I think they get final say on the party.  She thinks it would be weird to have a combined party because not all the guests will know each other.  Ultimately, I don't think it's my decision, but I was kind of surprised hearing that from my sister.  My siblings and I are close, get along well, etc.  What do you think?  Who is right?

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  • greengirl0909greengirl0909 member
    I totally see both sides. It is practical in my opinion to combine all three parties, but I totally understand your sister with her first baby wanting her own party. You are right however, if mom and dad are footing the bill, they have the final say and s
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    I totally see both sides. It is practical in my opinion to combine all three parties, but I totally understand
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    I totally see both sides. It is practical in my opinion to combine all three parties, but I totally understand

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    I totally see both sides. It is practical in my opinion to combine all three parties, but I totally understand
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    If she doesn't want to take part in the party, then she doesn't have to take part. Your parents can't force her. But she can't force them to throw her a separate party either.
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  • padmeamandapadmeamanda member
    I thought Red Egg and Ginger parties are supposed to be hosted by the parents, not grandparents? Your sister could host her own party separately. I think it is more ChineseAmerican for the grandparents to host because the older generation likes to keep th
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  • 3222w27thst3222w27thst member
    3 does sound practical cause there so close together but If i was your sister I'd feel the same way.
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