July 2013 Moms

Plan own baby shower?

No one has offered to throw me a baby shower yet and I keep reading that the momtobe isn't supposed to throw her own shower. My MIL lives in the same city as us but I only have one close friend here and my sisters all live far away. I really want to have a shower but feel like it's weird to ask someone if they're going to plan one for me? Should I just go ahead and start planning one anyone or wait and see?
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Re: Plan own baby shower?

  • Maybe casually mention to one of the out of town sisters... They may not be able to host, but they might be able to get the ball rolling for you.
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  • so are you saying you only have one close friend in the area that would be attending?  do you have other people to invite?
  • Before people start telling you how rude and tacky it is to even ask a question like this...no, don't plan your own baby shower. EVER.
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  • I have heard that it is frowned upon to throw your own because it may come across that you are asking for people to 'shower' you with gifts since that is basically the point of a shower. Maybe talk to your DH about it and he can mention it to his mom so y
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  • imageminouvan:
    Maybe casually mention to one of the out of town sisters... They may not be able to host, but they might be able to
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  • what you Coullllllld do, is ask your MIL if she could be the RSVP person.  and at least it doesnt look like you are throwing your own.
  • It's universally considered tacky to host your own shower. I definitely understand wanting that celebration, but the furthest I would go is to mention it to mention is to MIL and/or friend and see if they were just waiting on someone else to host. You mig

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  • Yep, don't do it. Maybe something is in the works and you just don't know yet. There's still a few months until we get to July, hopefully, someone will throw one for you. However, if you only have one friend and not much family in your area...who would be
  • imagekarirlaw:
    so are you saying you only have one close friend in the area that would be attending?nbsp; do you have other people to in
    Me: 35  H: 35
    Married: 4/5/13

    "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
    that place where you can still remember dreaming?
    That's where I will always love you.  
    That's where I'll be waiting."
    ~Peter Pan 

    *TW*
    BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
    BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
    BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
    BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
    RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
    BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl  :'(
    Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
    BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19  <3  Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
    BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 
  • imageminouvan:
    Maybe casually mention to one of the out of town sisters... They may not be able to host, but they might be able to


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    Before people start telling you how rude and tacky it is to even ask a question like this...no, don't


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  • imagekarirlaw:
    what you Coullllllld do, is ask your MIL if she could be the RSVP person.  and at least it doesnt look like you
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  • Love that the July 13 ladies agree throwing your own shower is tacky!

    I second the "I didn't have a bridal shower" sentiment. I had several people ask and I actually turned down a bridal shower because I knew I wanted to get KTFU soon after getti

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  • Wow...guess I didn't realize I was asking a stupid question. I don't want to have a shower to simply get gifts or be the center of attention, this is my first baby and I just always thought that a baby shower was a standard practice. I thought it would
    Me: 35  H: 35
    Married: 4/5/13

    "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
    that place where you can still remember dreaming?
    That's where I will always love you.  
    That's where I'll be waiting."
    ~Peter Pan 

    *TW*
    BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
    BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
    BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
    BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
    RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
    BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl  :'(
    Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
    BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19  <3  Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
    BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 
  • No, you really need to just wait and see if someone offers to throw one for you. Even though the pregnancy and how far along you are is in the forefront of your mind, it just isn't for anyone else.

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    Does anyone else think this might be MUD?


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    Me: 35  H: 35
    Married: 4/5/13

    "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
    that place where you can still remember dreaming?
    That's where I will always love you.  
    That's where I'll be waiting."
    ~Peter Pan 

    *TW*
    BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
    BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
    BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
    BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
    RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
    BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl  :'(
    Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
    BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19  <3  Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
    BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 
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    Wow...guess I didn't realize I was asking a stupid question. I don't want to have a shower to simply get gifts or be

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    Me: 35  H: 35
    Married: 4/5/13

    "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
    that place where you can still remember dreaming?
    That's where I will always love you.  
    That's where I'll be waiting."
    ~Peter Pan 

    *TW*
    BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
    BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
    BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
    BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
    RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
    BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl  :'(
    Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
    BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19  <3  Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
    BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 
  • imageStina2012:

    Love that the July 13 ladies agree throwing your own shower is tacky!

    I second the "I didn't have a brid

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  • If you just want the gathering and don't expect the gifts, why don't you host Spring Brunch one Sunday at your home- send invites to your friends and family saying you want to get together this Spring before your life gets crazy this summer. Don't make it
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    If you just want the gathering and don't expect the gifts, why don't you host Spring Brunch one Sunday at your hom
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    Wow...guess I didn't realize I was asking a stupid question. I don't want to have a shower to simply get gifts or be
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  • I agree with PP. Never ask nor pay for you own Baby Shower. Just because no one has mentioned throwing you one, doesn't mean someone isn't planning a surprise baby shower.
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