STMs - What will you do with LO #1?

OpheliaChem · April 2013

I know its early but I'm already stressed about what we will do with DD during this birth. My family is 4 hours away so the odds of them being able to drop what they are doing and drive out in time to watch DD are slim. My ILs are an hour away but I'm not wild about them. They are sort of inconsiderate and don't listen to our instructions for our dog when they watch him so I worry about them watching DD. They aren't around her more than every few months, so they don't know her schedule, what she eats, when she naps, heck they can't even change her CDs (we tried that once and first MIL refused to change it so DD sat in pee for 4 hours as a newborn and the next time she put the diaper on inside out!). So what are you thinking right now?

Also, does anyone know what most hospitals do in terms of older LOs? When can they stay with mom? How long during labor can DD be with me? I know all hospitals are different but just give me an idea.

thedash · April 2013

My IL's live nearby so DS will go to them. They aren't perfect at following his schedule and stuff but they are pretty good about it and he's used to being with them so I'm not worried. In your case I would try to get your IL's to agree to just watch her

RedDDD · April 2013

Im thinking if it is during the day (lets hope) then DS will be at Day care and my SIL will pick him up for us. But just yesterday my husband said something about leaving me in the hospital with the baby and staying at home with DS. HA HA HA F

magdalina.h · April 2013

Lucas is coming to the hospital with us and hanging out in triage with us until it's time for the c/s. At night he'll go home with MH and then MH will drop him off at my inlaws to keep his routine normal.

nicole925 · April 2013

My situation is a little different as I will be having a repeat c-section. So my DS will be going to daycare during the day and coming to the hospital to visit before going home with DH. This will be the case for all 3 days I am in the hospital, my DH

OpheliaChem · April 2013

thedash:
My IL's live nearby so DS will go to them. They aren't perfect at following his schedule and stuff but they are prett

kat81again2 · April 2013

I am also stressed out about this. All grandparents and family live very, very far away (flights only). If we knew precisely when I was delivering there would maybe be a chance one grandparent could come, but they're all pretty much still working (FIL

magdalina.h · April 2013

nicole925:
My situation is a little different as I will be having a repeat c-section. So my DS will be going to daycare during

OpheliaChem · April 2013

RedDDD:
Im thinking if it is during the day (lets hope) then DS will be at Day care and my SIL will pick him up for us.

kje120 · April 2013

I'm not really sure what we'll do, but I know our daycare will watch him for us. It's a small in-home daycare and that's one of the things they do for their current clients.

My parents are 2 hours away and DH's are 3.5-4 hours away. They ar

RedDDD · April 2013

This is my issue! I will be having a repeat c-section so I will be in the hospital for 4 days...no way am I letting him get out of not being with me and the baby those first nights in the hospital....maybe I will change my mind but if I do let him g

magdalina.h · April 2013

RedDDD:
This is my issue! I will be having a repeat c-section so I will be in the hospital for 4 days...no way am I letting

sprocketsmom · April 2013

I'm lucky and my parents are local. My ideal plan is to have my mom stay with DS at our house. That way there's minimal routine change for him. Aside from DH and I he's tge most confortable with my mom. I'm trying to talk DH into coming home overnight to

OpheliaChem · April 2013

nicole925:
My situation is a little different as I will be having a repeat c-section. So my DS will be going to daycare during

nicole925 · April 2013

magdalina.h:
nicole925

OpheliaChem · April 2013

RedDDD:
This is my issue! I will be having a repeat c-section so I will be in the hospital for 4 days...no way am I lett

JFJA15 · April 2013

We do not have family close to us and I keep testing positive for GBS so I will have to go in earlier then I wanted to the hospital to start antibotics during labor. My DH just asked this question this weekend and we both agree that our DS will go to the

AppleMuffins · April 2013

Can the in-laws take her for just a couple of hours while they wait for your parents to arrive? Maybe stick a movie on for her to kill some time, buy her a new toy, and maybe ILs can take her to the playground or out to eat before coming to wait at the

nicole925 · April 2013

OpheliaChem:
nicole925

OpheliaChem · April 2013

sprocketsmom:
I'm lucky and my parents are local. My ideal plan is to have my mom stay with DS at our house. That way there's

OpheliaChem · April 2013

Thanks for all the suggestions, ladies! I know that if worse comes to worse and our Plan A fails, DD won't starve or be left alone. Someone will look after her, even in a pinch. Hopefully it won't have to be the dog though ;-) Seriously, I know that in th

andy711 · April 2013

Hmm we still have to figure this out but I was glad to read other peoples examples. One set of grandparents live 1.5 away and the other 3.5 hours. I'm not sure what we will do if we had to go to the hospital in the middle of the night. I guess use the nei

OpheliaChem · April 2013

KateB1984:
My dad watches my older ones when I'm in labour. It's the only time he EVER has the kids, but I'm not worried about

1026pumpkin · April 2013

I have to say that knowing I'll have a RCS, it does make it a little easier to plan. My brother is the only local family we have and is ok with watching DS for short time periods or while he's sleeping.

Our plan is to install our 2nd car se

OpheliaChem · April 2013

1026pumpkin:
I have to say that knowing I'll have a RCS, it does make it a little easier to plan. My brother is the only

waterfall11 · April 2013

My parents and ILs are 2 hours away. I have a friend (DD's adopted grandma) who lives down the street and will take her as long as she is not at work (11:30am-3pm) until the grandparents can get here to watch her. Need to ask a couple other

bookworm982 · April 2013

A friend from church (we aren't sure which one yet) will take care of DD. After the first night, DH will take over most of her care until all 4 of us are home together. Obviously we haven't worked out details yet. This issue is actually my biggest source

RedDDD · April 2013

OpheliaChem:
RedDDD

RunningGal900 · April 2013

My parents and ILswill share him. I will ask that they sleep at our house. Ill just write out his schedule and if he's off for a few days oh well. Kids are not allowed in LD period at our hospital and I think seeing me in pain for long would freak him out

SweetPeaK26 · April 2013

Dd stayed with my parents. They brought her with them for the end of my labor, so my Mom could do the birth photography. Dad and dd went into the hall for the actual delivery.

I did NOT like dd seeing me in labor. I felt too self conscious t

DaisyZH · April 2013

My mom offered to stay overnight at our house so DS can sleep, he does not do well sleeping away from home. If the baby is born early enough in the day I would like DH to go home to be with DS. Also if I have to share a recovery room at the ho

beckyjoy8 · April 2013

LO will go a mile down the road to my parents house. We see my mom almost everyday so LO is very comfortable with her and loves her to pieces. She pretty much knows everything about his schedule so I will feel totally comfortable leaving him there for a c

OpheliaChem · April 2013

SweetPeaK26:
Dd stayed with my parents. They brought her with them for the end of my labor, so my Mom could do the birth photo

OpheliaChem · April 2013

laurelannie:
My parents are local and will watch her overnight if needed. If I were in your shoes I might try to get dd used t

kdv77 · April 2013

This is my biggest worry as well. We have an interesting situation being in China. We will definitely not have the option of family. However, we have a part time Ayi who helps me with DD and maintaining the house, so I plan on asking her if she stay at ou

Kristin&Kelly09 · April 2013

I have just starting thinking about this and it stresses me out since I have NO idea what we are going to do. Closest family is about 2.5 hours away but it is DH's aunt & uncle who do not have kids. I like his aunt but his uncle a

ShoeFanatic614 · April 2013

This is a good thread. I'm stressed about this too, OP.

DD goes to daycare and will continue to go while I'm in the hospital so hopefully I'd go into labor during the day and DH could just go get her afterwards and bring her to visit me and the b

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