I am feeling sort of down today so this is half vent half seeking advice.
DS is 16 months now, and a lot of moms that had babies right around that age are getting pregnant again. I go back and forth. Some days I feel like I would love another one right now, but other days I feel like I want DS to be a little older. DS is finally to the point where he can interact and play and I feel like I would miss out if we had another baby right now. For those of you that are FTMs when do you think you will have another? Is this feeling that I want to wait normal or should I be starting to think about #2? People tell me not to wait too long in between because they won't be close then.
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I can say from experience that there is nothing that myself or my oldest daughter have missed out on from having another.
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I firmly believe age doesn't determine whether your kids will be "close". Personality has a lot more to do with it. Don't feel pressured into having another baby!
Ditto PPs that age has nothing to do with how close siblings will be once they are older. Maybe I can buy that argument for kids pre-10ish. Because they will be doing similar activities/etc, but as adults, age gaps mean very little.
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I have a lot of the same feelings. I've always thought a 2ish age difference would be great. Now that DD is here I'm not so sure I'm ready for a newborn again. I had a great pregnancy, but the newborn stage was very hard for me.
Well I think that you shouldn't have another baby because everyone else is doing it or you think a certain spacing guarantees a relationship. If you wait another year in the grand scheme of things it isn't going to make a difference.
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Do what feels right....that's my only advice. We started trying when my son was a little before 2....then I had a m/c and discovered I basically have premature ovarian failure....diminished ovarian reserve if you want to be nice. (I was 31 at the time)
We're thinking about TTC in the summer/fall, so they'll be about 3 years apart. It feels right to us. It took me a long time to even get to the point of thinking about the newborn stage with anything other than pure dread. But I finally got there a cou