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Hi everyone,

I am new to this board, and would really love some advice. Let me tell you a little bit about me. I am 28 years old and have been with my husband for 11 years. When we first got together we got pregnant on accident when I was only 18, we wanted to keep the baby and were planning on it however I miscarried around 12 weeks. During that time I was under a tremendous amount of stress not knowing what to do so I had assumed it was a mixture of stress and not taking care of myself properly that had caused this as the doctor said there was nothing seriously wrong. I went back on birth control after that and we went along our normal life.  In November of 2010 we decided to get serious about it and really try to get pregnant so I stopped my birth control. I am the oldest of one other sister who is 3 years younger than me. We really wanted to get pregnant and so we tried, July 2010 rolled around and still nothing yet, we didn't start freaking out or anything as I had been on birth control for a long time before that. My sister who was on birth control ended up getting pregnant on accident in July and it set me back a little bit but we were happy together because she knew I was trying and we figured it would happen for me within the next few months. Well her 9 months went by and I still was not pregnant, All the meanwhile everyone knew I was trying and to top it off my husbands brother ended up getting pregnant a few months after my sister so it hit us all at once. I didn't know what to do or how to feel. I decided to go to the doctor only because my sister made me, he wanted to order blood work and have my husband tested as I get my periods normal every month. I never followed through, I don't know why, I don't know if it is because I am ashamed, scared to find out. We went the whole year and we kind of blew it off and said it will happen when the time is right we are not going to stress and go to doctors and everything if it is meant to be it is meant to be.  Well it's been over two years and still nothing you would think it would have happened at least once at the "right time". To top it all off we just found out this weekend that very close cousin and my husbands step sister just found out they were pregnant. So now I really don't know what to do or think.  I want to go to the doctor but on the same token I feel numb like this is my life Im used to it things never go the way I want them so why should I think any different, why am I going to go to the doctor so he can tell me there is something wrong with one of us when obviously there is, it's almost like I don't want to know whats wrong with me or him because then there is no one to blame it on. Any advice????

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  • lorirachellorirachel member
    I am sorry you are having such a hard time. I don't see why you wouldn't see a doctor though...yes, they may tell you something is wrong but they can also help you fix it, or help you get pregnant despite that. it could be a small thing that can be easily
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  • vpinevpine member

    I would go to RE and do the fertility testing. I have been tested, DH had SA, we were diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility. The longer you try without success after 12 months, the less chances you have each month (this said by my RE). What if your te

    Me: 32, DH: 34.
    Trying since Jan 2011. Unexplained IF.
    2 IUIs = BFN.
    1 IVF (Dec 2013) = BFN.
    FET, 2 frosties (June 13, 2014)

    14dp5dt-June 27 -BFP, beta 2061. 2nd beta >5000, 3rd beta >5000, 2 sacs 06/30.
    Twin Girls - 02/11/15 - at 37 weeks (no NICU, home with me at 3 days).
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  • babydreams13babydreams13 member
    We were trying for over a year and nothing.  Went to a RE in January and were diagnosed Unexplained.  For me going to a RE was very important because I wanted to know if something was wrong.  Even though nothing was found wrong the RE can s
    ***SIGGY WARNING***

    DX: Unexplained
    6 Failed IUIs (Clomid and Gonal F).  
    IVF #1 began August 2013- BC, 4 days of Estrace, stimmed with Gonal F and Menopur, Ganirelix, 9R 5M 5F, Medrol and Doxycycline, 5 day transfer of 2 early blastocysts- good quality, Progesterone, Estrace, and baby aspirin, BETA on 9/20 BFN,   IVF #2 began September 2013, stimming with Gonal F (higher dose) and Menopur, Ganirelix, 18R 14M 9F with ICSI, 5 day transfer of 2 BBs one was starting to hatch, 2 frosties: 1  BB and 1 AC, BETA on 10/21, BFN BETA was a 5- chemical 
    Getting some more testing and trying to figure out what the issue is before FET in December, started acupuncture on 11/10, RLP and some other BW nothing major to report except slightly high Prolactin. Prolactin was slightly high when I started with my RE and I already had an MRI which was Neg.  Endo biopsy=negative.  WTF is wrong with us???
    12/18/13 FET of 1 BB and 1 AC.  Hoping for a miracle.  Beta 12/26 Low BETA-8 2nd BETA 5- chemical
    After 3 failed transfers IDK where to go from here.  Still no real answers as to why this isn't working.  Getting a second opinion in February and looking into immune testing.  
    2/14- NEW RE- Immune testing showed a partial dq alpha match with DH- On prednisone and did intralipids prior to transfer.  3/14 Lupron, gonal f, menopur, HGH.  ER 15 mature all 15 fertilized!  5dt of an early blast grade 1 and an expanded blast grade 2.  BETA on 4/21.  1 grade 2 embryo frozen
    BETA #1 59 BETA #2 148 BETA #3 283 BETA #4 2,783! US at 6w2d shows 1 bean measuring right on track! HR 121.  US at 8w3d measuring on track HR 177. Released form my RE.  EDD 12/28


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  • almost-a-bridealmost-a-bride member
    Go see a doctor. I was in a very similar position as you but never got pregnant or miscarried. But everyone around me was getting pregnant. In the past couple of years we had been trying and I had 7 nieces and nephews born! Crazy. After we went to the do
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  • ricecakes1216ricecakes1216 member
    First, I'm sorry you have to go through this.

    I can understand not wanting to go to the doctor. I was like that, if I didn't know there wasn't anything wrong. Now that I'm in the testing process I am relieved and hope to have an answer. If t
     TTC#1 Since April 2011 
    BFP#1 5.23.12 C/P 4w4d 
    BFP #2 10.1.13
    EDD June 10, 2014
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  • ngalvan99ngalvan99 member
    Definitely make an appointment with a RE. It may be something so simple that needs to be done but at least you are aware and can work of "fixing" the situation. Hang in there. It is tough to see everyone around you having babies but just enjoy life and be
    Me 32/DH 38
    TTC since 05/2011
    HSG 07/2011 right tube blocked
    Clomid 50mg 3/2012 - no response
    Clomid 50mg 4/2012 - no response
    Met with RE 6/2012
    PCOS/IR diagnosed 6/2012
    Femura 5mg  9/2012 - no response
    Laparoscopy 12/2012 close off right tube
    Clomid 150mg 3/2013 - no response
    1st Follistim Cycle 7/16/2013 -  CD3-6 125iu; CD7-8 150iu; CD9-15 175iu; Trigger 8/1; IUI scheduled for 8/3/2013...BFN AF arrived 8-16-2013
    8/2013 cycle benched for cyst
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  • sugababy1921sugababy1921 member
    Thank you for the advice! I made an appointment for Next Friday to see my Ob/Gyn to start and see what he suggests. No I am not charting....not really sure how to this is new to me as the last year and a half we kinda just figured it would happen but now
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