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My husband finally gets it!

laurenann82laurenann82
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The other night my husband caught up with an old friend whose wife just had a baby. He said that the conversation was weird - they did things the really "normal" (his words!) way and he was disappointed that they couldn't bond over it, like he couldn't be all "Yeah, we're delaying cord clamping too! High five!" And he said something that I thought was pretty profound for a guy who has so far been supportive of me wanting a natural birth just from a "whatever makes you happy, honey" perspective. He told me that it seemed like labor and delivery was something that was done TO his friend's wife, not something that she DID. I'm not sure that I totally agree with that - I mean I am sure that this woman worked really hard and was an active participant in the birth of their child - but I hear where he is coming from. I'm happy that it clicked for him and he now understands why I've made the decisions that I've made, and I hope that he feels like he can be a bigger part of those decisions from now on.

That's it, just wanted to share my anecdote. Happy hump day everyone! 

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Re: My husband finally gets it!

  • BebuhBebuh
    Nice! My DH is still in the "Whatever" phase. Glad yours had his epiphany!
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  • CountrieBumCountrieBum member

    I'm waiting for my husband to come around as well. He is in the euphoria of "You mean you get what you want and it's cheaper!?" OK! 

    He'll get it eventually, he's hit some small milestones along the way. But I'm just glad he understands and

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  • OldGloryOldGlory
    That's wonderful! MH passively suggested it years ago before we were considering a baby and let me look into it. Much of the day-to-day stuff like my Hypnobabies CD's he's not interested in, but he's attended MW appointments, encouraged me to hire a doula
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  • mlrafikimlrafiki member

    Awesome! My hubby spent some time in the "whatever makes you happy, honey" phase, as well, but I knew he'd gotten it when his mother started telling me I needed an induction (because I'd been having repeated kidney infections/stones) and he cut her off

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