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Homestudy for IA-Background Factors Question

Stacy092306Stacy092306 member
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I am probably overthinking this, but I can't figure out how to fill out the acceptable background factors for the birth parents for our homestudy. 

We are doing IA, and we realize that little or nothing may be know about the birth parents of the child we are referred.  So, I marked that we are willing to accept that little or nothing may be known about the birth parents' medical background.  The rest of the form regarding the birth parents gets into specific background factors like alcoholism, drug use, mental issues, etc. that we would be willing to accept. 

Should I look at it as we will accept a child where nothing is known about family medical history, but if something is known, we would rather not have a situation where the birth parents have x,y, and z in their medical background?  Or should I mark willing to accept for all of the factors since we just said we are willing to accept little or no background medical information?  I tried asking our SW, but I didn't get a good answer.

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Re: Homestudy for IA-Background Factors Question

  • ellekaeellekae member

    That's a tough one. If you have reservations about your child's bio family having specific things in their medical history, then note those things. If you can't think of anything specific that would be a definite deal breaker for you, then note that yo

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  • AwBethAwBeth member
    Filling out the acceptable background factors was one of the most difficult parts of the adoption process for us so far.  I think you just have to be honest about what you feel like your family can handle at this time.  It's difficult to pick an
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  • miss1180miss1180 member

    we adopted our son from Korea 7 months ago. When we were doing the homestudy, we HAD to be opened to certain things, like possible smoking/drinking while pregnant, mildly low birthweight...

      But then for the checklist like you're talkign ab

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  • Stacy092306Stacy092306 member

    imagemiss1180:
      But then for the checklist like you're talkign about- i looked at it as IF they knew about these things,
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    I think the reason your social worker may not have been able to be much help is that different countries apply these lists differently, and some don't evenly attention to them.  Peru, for example, was so convinced that Americans only wanted "healt

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  • KirstybabyKirstybaby member

    Yes, this was a hard step for us as well because we felt so awful for saying no to certain things.  I was like, "It's not the child's fault that we don't have a medical background on them..." :( Our CW told us not to feel bad for saying "no"

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