Pregnant after a Loss
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Fear of Coming Out?
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So, I'm 17 weeks and still haven't told anyone that I'm expecting except for my Boss and that was only because I had to go on bedrest for a week back around 8 weeks.
It's Easter and I am going to have dinner at my Dad's tonight so we plan on telling him tonight. I feel like I'm going to jinx myself.
I have had 2 losses and the last one I told my Dad at 8 weeks and literally right after telling him, started spotting and miscarried less than a week later.
Am I crazy? I feel like if it was 100% up to me, I'd keep it to myself for my whole pregnancy but obviously that isn't realistic...and kind of un-fair to my family.
Has anyone else not came out yet? Or if you have, were you scared to? How did you cope with it?
*Posted this in S13 as well*
It's Easter and I am going to have dinner at my Dad's tonight so we plan on telling him tonight. I feel like I'm going to jinx myself.
I have had 2 losses and the last one I told my Dad at 8 weeks and literally right after telling him, started spotting and miscarried less than a week later.
Am I crazy? I feel like if it was 100% up to me, I'd keep it to myself for my whole pregnancy but obviously that isn't realistic...and kind of un-fair to my family.
Has anyone else not came out yet? Or if you have, were you scared to? How did you cope with it?
*Posted this in S13 as well*
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Re: Fear of Coming Out?
I think that if you aren't comfortable telling yet, you shouldn't tell yet. Whether it's "fair" to your family isn't really an issue, unless you think it's going to cause you stress or drama down the line when they do inevitably find out.
Just kn
It's always scary, but just remember that you can't jinx yourself, and statistically, your odds are as good as they're going to get at this stage, so there really is no "safer" time, and it's going to be obvious sooner or later, anyway!
That said
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
I came out to my family (only my mother knew ... and my boss) last week at 18w, and had an anxiety attack beforehand. Even after telling them (which was a fabulously fun moment) my heart was beating super fast. It started to calm down the next day, and
BFP#1 10/1/2011. Our perfect little girl, Her heart stopped @ 12w1d. D&E 11/23/11
BFP#2 3/13/12 Weird CP/Possible EP @ 6w0d
BFP#3 5/28/12 CP @ 5w0d
BFP/WTF#4 10/26/12 CP
BFP#5 12/10/12 EDD 8/23/2013