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VBAC
Discouraged...long
Just a little back story...
I had DS 7 months ago via emergency csection at 39 weeks. I had a failed induction and was in labor for about 17 hours only making it to 2 and a half cm and that was with being stretched. The whole experience was extremely traumatic and disappointing for me. My birth plan was to attempt a natural vaginal birth and have a tub to labor in if need be. Anyway, it is what it is and I got my beautiful son out of it so it was worth it.
At my 6 week pp check up I wanted to get Mirena put in but my OB was trying to go away from that because she said my cervix was unusually tight. Meaning it would be painful to get it in. I agreed to not try it and move on.
At my well women's check up today I asked my Dr what her thoughts were on VBAC and if we could go that route next time I get KU. She looked at my records and her exact words were "Oh, no. Absolutely not."
When I asked her why she started to explain to me that some women's bodies just arent made for vaginal child birth. She tells me "back in the day there were lots of deaths during childbirth. That's because it was before they were familiar/comfortable with the idea of having a cesarian sections." I guess she was trying to make me feel better..? But it really didn't help.
I left the appointment feeling distraught and confused. This may sound dramatic but ever since I can remember I've longed to have children and try to experience actual natural childbirth.
Another thing is I feel I was induced too soon. I feel strongly that if I would have been able to go to atleast 41 weeks before induction, that I could have possibly gone into labor on my own. So when my Dr tells me that my body just isn't cut out for it I feel like saying...how do we REALLY know that? You didn't let me go full term.
I talked it out with my mother and she suggested I get a second opinion. I love my OB but maybe my mom is right? Or is this true that its safer to just have a RCS instead of VBAC because of my cervix failing issues? I know they say every pregnancy is different so I really don't know what could happen but I definitely don't want to be wrongfully given a csection when I might have a shot at something here.
BTW, I am not currently KU and we aren't going to start TTC for another maybe 9 months to a year. I am just going off of emotions from my appt i had earlier today.
If you got this far, I so appreciate you taking the time to read this.
I had DS 7 months ago via emergency csection at 39 weeks. I had a failed induction and was in labor for about 17 hours only making it to 2 and a half cm and that was with being stretched. The whole experience was extremely traumatic and disappointing for me. My birth plan was to attempt a natural vaginal birth and have a tub to labor in if need be. Anyway, it is what it is and I got my beautiful son out of it so it was worth it.
At my 6 week pp check up I wanted to get Mirena put in but my OB was trying to go away from that because she said my cervix was unusually tight. Meaning it would be painful to get it in. I agreed to not try it and move on.
At my well women's check up today I asked my Dr what her thoughts were on VBAC and if we could go that route next time I get KU. She looked at my records and her exact words were "Oh, no. Absolutely not."
When I asked her why she started to explain to me that some women's bodies just arent made for vaginal child birth. She tells me "back in the day there were lots of deaths during childbirth. That's because it was before they were familiar/comfortable with the idea of having a cesarian sections." I guess she was trying to make me feel better..? But it really didn't help.
I left the appointment feeling distraught and confused. This may sound dramatic but ever since I can remember I've longed to have children and try to experience actual natural childbirth.
Another thing is I feel I was induced too soon. I feel strongly that if I would have been able to go to atleast 41 weeks before induction, that I could have possibly gone into labor on my own. So when my Dr tells me that my body just isn't cut out for it I feel like saying...how do we REALLY know that? You didn't let me go full term.
I talked it out with my mother and she suggested I get a second opinion. I love my OB but maybe my mom is right? Or is this true that its safer to just have a RCS instead of VBAC because of my cervix failing issues? I know they say every pregnancy is different so I really don't know what could happen but I definitely don't want to be wrongfully given a csection when I might have a shot at something here.
BTW, I am not currently KU and we aren't going to start TTC for another maybe 9 months to a year. I am just going off of emotions from my appt i had earlier today.
If you got this far, I so appreciate you taking the time to read this.
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Re: Discouraged...long
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
Yes, please get another opinion. It also took me 16 hours to get to 2 cm and I labored naturally - that's within the realm of normal for a FTM, as difficult as it is.
Regarding Mirena - it can tear your uterus. Considering that us c-section
IUD's are safe for people with healed c-sections. Perforation is a small, but possible risk for anyone with an IUD. There is no risk of rupture. I've never heard of anyone not being able to get one because of a c-section.
<pIt sounds like a second opinion couldn't hurt. I understand how you feel about having a strong desire to experience vaginal childbirth. I feel the same way, even though it's a strange thing to try to explain to anyone, spouse, friend, mother, or doctor
How big did your baby end up being?
Honestly, I wouldn't trust this provider. I think it's time to get a second opinion. And to tell you the truth, I might switch providers anyway, even if you end up choosing a RCS. The early in
8lbs 14oz. They were suspecting 9lbs and over so
::waves hello from A12::
Get a second opinion, and possibly a third if needed. Your OB clearly is not comfortable with VBAC in general based on what you said in your OP.
FWIW, my cervix didn't do sh*t (stalled at 3ish cm
~Sweet Girl *8/18/08* c-section ~ Sweet Boy *12/2/10* VBAC ~ Sweet Boy *8/14/12* VBAC~
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