Time out for toddlers?

watermellens · March 2013

My older son is diagnosed PDD-NOS and has been struggling the last few months with aggression towards me. Whenever I redirect him (for anything it seems) he'll run at me, pull my hair, bite, push, etc.

I'll get down on his level and say "you don't bite mommy, that hurts, say you're sorry" and he'll refuse. This went on for an hour last night - him refusing to apologize until finally we gave in and just let him go to bed because it was 45 min past his bedtime.

Oh and a one week old at home and a double ear infection for my toddler is also throwing us for a spin. Tongue Tied

Are time outs appropriate for these kinds of situations? I don't even know where to begin, including "will he even understand this" but I'm assuming consistency is key. Keep putting him back into the time out spot until he stays there and then explain to him why he was there, make him apologize, hugs and kisses and move on?

kcisthebombdotcom · March 2013

pretty much every person across the board that i've worked with in my children's lives thus far has recommended positive discipline for special needs kiddos. it has really helped with minimizing unwanted behaviors here.

there are plenty of books

watermellens · March 2013

KC_13:
pretty much every person across the board that i've worked with in my children's lives thus far has recommended positiv

kcisthebombdotcom · March 2013

watermellens:
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mommy0411 · March 2013

My DS also has PDD-NOS but is a few months younger then your DS. Time outs do not work for my DS at all. In fact, he loves standing in a corner because its enclosed and he can stim to his hearts content. (They tried at his Mother's Day out program) We

lite-bright · March 2013

I don't know if this helps, but we use 1-2-3 Magic. Get the book. One thing that struck me when I started using it, was how much I was verbalizing -- explaining, threatening (you're going to get a TO), etc. and I really needed to just focus on the beha

watermellens · March 2013

Thanks everyone - I've heard of 123 Magic, but haven't seen the Explosive Child book yet. I might order that tonight. seeing a behaviorist is a great idea too.

houndbaby · March 2013

My ds is ASD and we did 1-2-3 Magic as well, I don't think ds really understood time outs until close to 2.5 but they were (and still are) effective.

houndbaby · March 2013

And there is also a 1-2-3 Magic video, we got a copy for free from EI, that was good because dh and I could watch it together and discuss it immediately instead of both of us having to take the time to read the book.

mamantraining · March 2013

I think it's important to remember what's happening when you are trying to redirect him. For example, if you are trying to get him dressed and he aggresses and then gets a time out then he may have just escaped something he didn't want to do. Time out is

watermellens · March 2013

mamantraining:
I think it's important to remember what's happening when you are trying to redirect him. For example, if you ar

mamantraining · March 2013

Do you think he's trying to get your attention? I know my son does things like messing with doors and stuff when he thinks it's something that will get a reaction from me. In that case, I wouldn't give a time out. That's because I may be inadvertently giv

watermellens · March 2013

mamantraining:
Do you think he's trying to get your attention? I know my son does things like messing with doors and stuff whe

mamantraining · March 2013

I totally get how you would feel like doing nothing is not the thing to do. After all it's first instinct to reprimand when toddlers are aggressive. I have a two year old too :. Some kids learn well from time out, while others actually like it if you can

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