What would you do...

vadamsv · March 2013

I have a friends bachlorette party this upcoming weekend and of course its the usual get loads of booze and head into the city on a party bus. I am 18 weeks and am really not in the mood to deal with going to a club...As anyone ever had to back out of something like this before? She is a close friend so you would think she would understand but I know it's going to cause some issues...any advice on what to say??

MyaMaternity · March 2013

If you honestly don't feel like going just be honest with her and let her know the situation. However if you want to go and are just worried about drinking then you don't have to drink and can elect for something else. Either way if she is a

elishabelle · March 2013

Are they doing dinner or anything before they go out? You could always participate in that and skip the club.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

One of my friends had a party like that for her bday this past weekend. I didn't go and she understood:) good friends are understanding.

vadamsv · March 2013

it's not the drinking thing, i would be fine with that. it's more the atmosphere i think. And they aren't doing dinner...just pre-gaming and heading to the club. I'm more at an awkward middle ground here and am struggling with finding the right words to s

shara3333 · March 2013

I think she'd understand. Though if you committed to the bus, etc... and are splitting costs on that with the other girls I personally would still pay my portion even if I wasn't going because of such late notice. If she is a close fr

shara3333 · March 2013

vadamsv:
it's not the drinking thing, i would be fine with that. it's more the atmosphere i think. And they aren't doing dinne

pantsarella · March 2013

I was recently the maid of honor in a wedding and I planned the bachelorette party, but I let the bride know I wasn't going to attend because I was pregnant. I thought she would make a big deal out of it, but she was super supportive. I texted througho

vadamsv · March 2013

You're all so right. Thank you!

526SadieSadie · March 2013

If she's truly your friend she shouldn't have any problem at all with you sitting out her bachelorette night. It's really not fun to be the sober one while everyone else gets liquored up and clubs suuuck.

I'm not expecting again but I&nbs

JilllyBean · March 2013

If it were a good friend, i would suck it up. Sorry, but I would be kind of hurt if I were her that you couldn't deal with one night of not drinking and hanging out for her bachelorette party. You don't have to stay till 4am, just go for a bit. Make th

magdalina.h · March 2013

vadamsv. You aren't looking very good. You're pale and your nose is red. Are you coming down with the flu? You better stay home and rest this weekend. Gotta take care of you and baby.

juliet73537 · March 2013

JilllyBean:

If it were a good friend, i would suck it up. Sorry, but I would be kind of hurt if I were her that you couldn'

manditxg · March 2013

I know I'm one of the few but I would still go. You should be there for your friend. My friend had her bachelorette party and both her 7 month pregnant sister and 3 month pregnant friend went. they had no problems staying out and bar hop

magdalina.h · March 2013

manditxg:
I know I'm one of the few but I would still go. You should be there for your friend. My friend had her bach

leahaustin · March 2013

If she knows you are pregnant I can't see why she would be upset with you not wanting to go out club hopping. I wouldn't go either.

vintageutopia · March 2013

What would *I* do? If it were a good friend, I would support my friend by going, but maybe bow out a little early.

caelorum84 · March 2013

JilllyBean:
If it were a good friend, i would suck it up. Sorry, but I would be kind of hurt if I were her that you couldn't d

olga1311 · March 2013

I definitely wouldn't go. To add to everything others said, unless its a lounge where you can sit and rest a club atmosphere is not exactly the ideal place for pregnant mama. You are surrounded by drunk people that usually have no coordination, think its

imoan · March 2013

And when will half of you be pissed that people treat pregnancy like it's a disability. Because it's attitudes like this... at a measly 18 weeks pregnant... that add to that thought.

I just went out for a friend's bday at 33 weeks. I

MRads · March 2013

imoan:

And when will half of you be pissed that people treat pregnancy like it's a disability. Because it's attitudes

Monilee1017 · March 2013

What I did for my SIL is half of the party. Most of the bachelorette parties I've been to start tame, cocktails and bedroom gifts at someone's house or in a hotel room then they get wild. So for my SIL, I was 6 months pregnant for DS, I went to the beg

JilllyBean · March 2013

MRads:
imoan:

leece21 · March 2013

When I was pregnant with DS I still went out with my girlfriends. I offered to be the DD but let them know that I turn into a pumpkin at midnight so that is when I was leaving no matter what. I danced, drank mocktail and overall had a great time. I love t

coraggiosa · March 2013

I kind of think it's absurd that people wouldn't go to a bachelorette party at 18 weeks. I get that the entire night seems to be about drinking, but if she was a really good friend, only seriously not feeling good would stop me from going and laughing

sdtchica13 · March 2013

Yup, add me to team "suck it up and go". You are 18 weeks, not 35, and it's one night out, not a week of drunken debauchery. I am flying to Florida next week for my sister's bachelorette weekend and will be 26 weeks the day we take off...unless you have a

olga1311 · March 2013

coraggiosa:

I kind of think it's absurd that people wouldn't go to a bachelorette party at 18 weeks. I get that the entire

JilllyBean · March 2013

olga1311:
coraggiosa:<

olga1311 · March 2013

JilllyBean:
olga1311:<

katiebenes · March 2013

If you're really worried, and think she wouldn't understand a pre-cancel: day of: morning sickness came back/started. Then after canceling, take her to lunch to "apologize" for "missing her awesome party"

Honestly- since it is the Party Bus

Mrs.Handy · March 2013

If it's a good friend, I would go. Later in your pregnancy I would understand. But 18 weeks is way early to start using the pregnancy excuse. Unless you're ill or something.

I went to a bachelorette party for a friend during my

Mrs.Handy · March 2013

JilllyBean:
olga1311:<

britb618 · March 2013

I would do whatever you think your comfortable doing. If you feel like your going to feel uncomfortable at the club, then skip. I don't think clubs are for prego women. Not that its a disability but really clubs are loud, your not going to be spending qua

Mrs. Mo · March 2013

I don't see any reason not to go. I went to a couple of concerts while pregnant with DD (stayed away from mosh-pits). Just scope out possible places to sit (if needed) once you get to the club. Also, if you are worried about being pushed, wear flats so th

MommyKristin88 · March 2013

My biggest concern is the smoking. Is smoking allowed in clubs there? It is here. That would be the only reason I wouldn't go.

If there's no smoking, definitely go. Why not? Even if you don't stay the whole time, it's better than not showing up

kennazebrowsky · March 2013

I wouldn't go. For me I have been sick as a dog the whole pregnancy. We had to cancel a family get together cause I have been so sick.

If it is a good friend they should understand . If it were me I would understand . In fact I had 3 people

kelle017 · March 2013

For my bachelorette party we just went to dinner and hung out at my sisters house. I'm not into the bar scene.

one of my four bridesmaids was 8 months pregnant and skipped it. It bugged me a little. I understood, but at the same

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