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The Nap TakerThe Nap Taker member
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I've stated recently that I'm sure I will be laid off, I'm assuming it's coming in may when our company goes to outsource.

We have had issues getting pregnant for awhile so we stopped trying. My DH has been pretty "meh" about trying again. He says "now is not the time" so a few months ago we sat down and talked about it and set a time to start trying again in early fall. Yippee. I'll take what I can get 

Now with me loosing my job most likely, he is freaking out and saying "how can we afford another baby if you don't have a job"  that's all. He knows I want another one but he won't really talk about it now.

Tonight I was writing down my start date of AF and he asked what I was doing I told him and he said "did you write it in pencil so I can erase it later" Althouh  it was funny it makes me think he's never going to want a another baby 

His mom had four babies while his dad was in medical school. Yes, they struggled but me DH says that he had a wonderful childhood and never wanted for nothing.

I just don't know how to approach the baby thing now if I get laid off 

I  might had that we can still live well without my salary. No, we won't do a lot of the things we do now and cut backs will be made 

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  • missyisheremissyishere member
    If you can financially take the hit from losing your job and still care for another child, go for it.  If you both feel it could cause a strain in any way, I would wait until a more opportune time.  I would show him a budget with his finances al


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  • bearfootzbearfootz member

    I guess I'd want to make sure that he's really on board with having another child and find out what his concerns are.  If it's just financial then I'd show him the numbers - point out that financially you would be ok if you're not working and that

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  • Tigger & poohTigger & pooh member
    Are you looking for a new job? You may never get him to change his mind but back off until fall and be proactive and get a new job now. Then by fall revisit the issue. I spent 4 yrs waiting for DH to change his mind. I am sorry you guys aren't on the
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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    imageTigger pooh:
    Are you looking for a new job? You may never get him to change his mind but back off until fall and be proactive and


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  • LuckyDadLuckyDad member

    So, let's say you did get KU in the near future. What would be the childcare plan? Do you make enough money to pay for child care for two? Or would you be a SAHM anyways?

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  • Luckie519Luckie519 member
    I agree with PP, I would revisit it in the fall. This would give you some time to save money and for you to find another job. I also agree that if you wait for "the right time" to have another child, it may never come. DH and I sat down last year and

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    The tl;dr version (and to echo other PPs) is that you agreed to the fall, you should absolutely table any and
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  • klondikebarklondikebar member
    I would focus on looing for a new job and saving money. Then look at your financial situation again in the fall and decide together if you are in a place where you are both comfortable TTC. I can't fault your H for not wanting to think about a baby right
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  • The Nap TakerThe Nap Taker member

    Thanks Ladies. I really appreciate your POV.

    Yes, I have been looking for a month or two. I also live in an area where the pay sucks, I make a very good salary for my area. I'm in the oil industry so I can find a job anywhere but since right now

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    Even with the job situation out of the picture, I think it would be better if you're both on board for trying f
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  • RockyTopVolsRockyTopVols member

    What if your husband just doesn't want any more children? I don't think it is fair to pressure him into having another child if he decided he doesn't want one. Even if he said so before- people change their mind all the time. And I think anyone in a ma

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