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Marvel1013 · March 2013

Sorry I really need to vent. So I have a two year old, and I'm 17 weeks pregnant. Last night I had a huge fight with my husband.. He wanted to cuddle our two year old so he brought him in our bed. I got pretty ticked off at that because there was no need for him to come in our bed, I mean I love him, but whenever he comes in our bed my husband always falls asleep and then I have to look after him all night. So my husband fell asleep and started snoring really loudly in his ear.. I had got my son a cup of milk at some point.. I leaned over to my husband and said loudly to him to put our son back to bed. My husband got really mad, threw the blanket knocking our sons milk allll over him and he started crying. I changed him and picked him up and that's when our fight escalated! I was trying to be a "hero" and I started to be a mother apparently. He said some really mean stuff to me, I'm not perfect as well and I did back.. But he called my family a waste of space, and said they don't care about anyone. That's completely false, my parents have helped us out so much.. With Either furniture, food.. Anything. We are a young family.. i was 22 when i had my son.. so i feel like my damily has been great. His family live in England and have been there the past almost 3 years of our sons life but apparently they would drop everything for our son. They are moving back here next week actually.. But have been in England the entire time.. I don't know. I'm extremely frustrated, and we talked about divorce yesterday. He got mean again and said I can take our son with me but he would take me to court for custody and win. Who says that!!!!!!!!!! Ugh. That comment, in my eyes, was the worst. I don't even know how to go about this now because I definitely don't want to talk to him. I'm pregnant for F sakes.. I don't need to argue like this.

P.s sorry I don't know all the lingo yet

Marvel1013 · March 2013

Oh and just to mention.. Our son was out back to bed while we argued.. He wasnt around ua

shara3333 · March 2013

Obviously this goes a lot deeper than some spilled milk.

Counseling? Or maybe take the divorce talk more seriously?

I don't really know what else to say since I haven't been in a remotely similar situation,

Marvel1013 · March 2013

I've suggested counseling before and he would say we don't need it. I mean, he has a stressful job.. And works late. We usually argue when we are both tired.. But that's not fair to say hurtful things to each other. I had an argument with my MIL the other

sarack · March 2013

I am so sorry that you're dealing with this. I'm not even sure how your conversation got to become about your family but that is horrible. I hope that you two seriously consider some marriage counselling, there is obviously a lot that needs to be talked a

lindsayanne14 · March 2013

As pp said, this likely about a lot more than "spilled milk". If your DH won't go to counseling as a couple then I suggest you begin going on your own. Best case scenario, he realizes you are taking your marital issues seriously and he de

Marvel1013 · March 2013

I totally agree that it was over more than just the spilled milk. It's hard to convince someone to try something new when they have it in there mind they don't need it. Like I may try it by myself at first. I'm sure it's not just y husband who has stuff

Marvel1013 · March 2013

Oops. Like the person above said

shelliescove3 · March 2013

I am lurking and I hope its ok that I post... But I just want to say that making excuses for your DH's behaviour and your argument arent going to make it better... Those types of threats about court and things are pretty problematic and probably wont be f

leahaustin · March 2013

shara3333:
Obviously this goes a lot deeper than some spilled milk.
Counseling? Or maybe take t

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Marvel1013 · March 2013

I'm 25 now and we've been married for 3 years now. We did get married young.. Well younger than alot. I'm not trying to make excuses for him, if it came out that way it wasnt Intentional. I don't even have an excuse for the stuff I said. Like others have

vintageutopia · March 2013

This goes beyond a toddler in your bed and spilled milk.

It sounds like you are young and have a great deal of change happening in your family(ies) right now and it may be causing some pent up stress.

You b

PrimRoseMama · March 2013

Marriage counseling. Make the appointment. You need it.

Lilmrslay · March 2013

somerandomchick:
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emikat · March 2013

I'm sorry you are going through this. I also suggest counseling. If he refuses go yourself. At least it'll help get your head straight about what needs to be done, even if that is a divorce.

It's very important in any hou

katiebenes · March 2013

Long response sorry

Well, my DH would be in about as bad of a mood in the middle of the night and not remember it the next morning. like - at all. If he is usually a much nicer person, it could just be a "

MJHershey · March 2013

*blink* that escalated rather quickly. Sounds like you two need to have someone watch kiddo and have a serious talk and not in the middle of the night.

Marvel1013 · March 2013

We talked.. It was alot better. Like some had mentioned, he said alot of it was from the heat of the moment. It still wasn't appreciated and he apologized alot and said he was a jerk. Low blows can be mean. I've asked him if he ever has an issue or someth

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