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Trying to change negativity

lovethebosoxlovethebosox member
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I realized today that ever since my BFP last Oct, which ended in a missed m/c discovered at 8w, I have been immersed in negativity and anxiety. Through the early weeks of that pg, the m/c, trying to heal, after this BFP, and even now, when I have passed all my loss milestones. If I am not feeling scared about losing the pregnancy, I am worrying about being a good parent to 3. I think all my negative thinking is taking a major toll on me, and especially on my family.

When you get stuck in a place like this, what do you do to turn your thinking around? I need help in bringing some positive energy back into my life.

Thanks for reading my tale of woe, and for any wisdom you might have to share.
Mommy to Alden, born May 19, 2007 - best birthday present ever! natural m/c October 20, 2008 at 8w1d BFP April 4, 2009! Missed m/c discovered May 1, 2009 D&C May 12,2009 BFP March 3, 2010 Chemical pregnancy BFP May 25, 2010 Elias Derek born January 26, 2011! Surprise BFP October 24, 2012 Missed m/c confirmed Nov 26 D&C Nov 30 Surprise BFP February 13, 2013
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Re: Trying to change negativity

  • deltagirl79deltagirl79 member

    ((hugs)) I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I went through a rough patch last fall and was a huge mess. I did start therapy and Prozac. Something else I did though that you can do for yourself is I started a gratitude journal.  I had

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  • Cocolamo1Cocolamo1 member
    I am right there with you. I was starting to feel more positive after my AS and then was told that I possibly have 'marginal insertion of the placenta'. After consulting Dr. Google, I spent yesterday convinced that this baby isn't going to make it.
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  • luvbostonluvboston member
    It sounds like it might help you to go talk to a professional they can give you great coping skills when things get rough. I saw someone after my 5th m/c and it has helped me a lot this pregnancy.
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    Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
    Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011
    1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
    Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
    1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
    Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
    DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011
    IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
    IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
    Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
    Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) 
    Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
    Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
    Dec 12 Humira
    Jan 2013 BFP
    Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
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  • KDS1987KDS1987 member
    Just wanted to offer ((hugs)). I agree with the PP about the positive thoughts journal. I gave that a shot a while back when I was going through a rough patch and it really helped. I kind of suck at keeping up with that kind of thing so I think I only act
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