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gr8bigsmilegr8bigsmile member
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This might sound stupid and I'm sorry if it comes across that way but I'm trying to help my sister out.  A couple that she works with is adopting a baby and she would like to buy them a gift but doesn't want them to know ahead of time.  I told her I imagined that they would probably still have registered somewhere and to maybe check the "standard" places like BRU or Target for registries.  So my question is this...did you or do you plan on registering for baby items?
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Re: Quick Question

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    I'm in the early phases of adoption research so I can't help you. But I did want you to know that it isn't a stupid question at all.
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  • BurkeJaxBurkeJax
    Early here also, but what about a BRU gift card...that way they can get what they need.
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  • TTCgradstudTTCgradstud

    We have/ will be registering.  I think the suggestion for a gift card is always helpful, or if your sister knows of anything specific her friend has mentioned getting (like DH aunt bought us a mattress because we are using their crib).  That way she sould get them something that they need and could give it to them before they pick up their baby. 

    Not a stupid question, and very thoughtful of your sister. 

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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member

    We have decided to not have a shower nor register for gifts until we have our newborn. We are however decorating the nursery now with gender neutral and purchasing immediately needed items. This is a special thing for DH and I to do as a couple. After, the baby is born and brought home we will register and have a 'welcome to the family' party.

     In our email to friends and family announcing that we are 'expecting' without a due date we explained to them about domestic newborn adoption as well as asked them to kindly NOT send us gifts or schedule a shower. We know the chances of our match not working out is 20% and we just don't want to have a lot of baby-specific gifts and the such until everything is finalized. Besides, it will be that much more special for everyone to buy gifts for a baby with an identity :-)

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  • kmkaullkmkaull
    We're waiting to be matched, and I'm working on a registry.  Really, I see it more as a checklist for us.  We don't want a shower until after the baby is here, and parental rights have been terminated. We have already bought a lot, as babies need things as soon as they come home.  :-)
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  • RanitaRanita
    I agree with the others, it's not a bad question at all.  I think there are some differences of opinion on this and those are partly personal decisions but could also be influenced by the type of adoption.  For us, our adoption is international and therefore we don't even know the age of our child until we get matched (we have a range of 0 - 12months but that's a wide range).  We will do a registry once we have a referal and when it comes to gifts in advance, neutral practical things are great and so are gift cards with a small teddy bear attached or something like that because then if the couple would rather not have a lot before things are finalized, they will have the resources readily at hand when they need them.  This is very kind of your sister, and great of you to help her out.  I hope that there are such caring people surrounding me when it's my turn.
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  • Honeydew1894Honeydew1894
    I think gift cards would be great. Also, maybe coupons? I know diapers are $$$! Not exactly an exciting or cute gift, but definitely practical.
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