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New mother scaring me

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My friend recetly had her baby on the 14th and she is scaring the mess out of me. She said breast feeding is beyond hard and gave up after the 4th day and says she feels depressed and wants to cry all the time and she worried if she is doing anything right.

I told her and also know that depression is part of it. I mean you just pushed a baby out your body and had it change for 9 months.Its alot to adjust too. She also said cause her mom passed away and she doesnt have her for advice. Im just a friend and trying to be there for her 100% but a friend will never compare to a mother plus Im only 10weeks so I dont know what to say except what Im finding out thru research. I just try to keep her positive saying she is doing good and if she is worried with breast feeding then go to WIC for help and ask her doctor about anything cause this is all new to us. Any tips ladies.

She somewhat scaring me, I thought Id hear this is the best thing that ever happened to me and instead its more of the opposite.

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  • rjeller32rjeller32 member
    That is such a hard thing to deal with, my SIL is the same way. I would definitely recommend she look into getting some sort of help mentally and emotionally through counceling or what have you, because I can't imagine the feelings of being a new mom and
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  • thatoneredheadthatoneredhead member

    I mentally side-eyed my friend for telling me there are nights you'll want to throw your baby out the window, but it's only a problem if you actually consider it. Now that I have one, I can totally relate.

    If she has stopped BFing, she is probabl

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  • klibby707klibby707 member

    I'm just lurking, but I wanted to say this.  I wish someone had told me how hard breastfeeding was.  I called my friend on day 2 crying, and she made me feel better when she said yup, it's super hard but gets better.  I made it almost 12

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  • DublinMamaDublinMama member

    When I was pregnant, about 10 million people told me to enjoy the sleep while I could. While that is also true, what I really wish people would have honestly said is, "Enjoy feeling like yourself and being in control of your emotions while you can." I

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  • KmfMjf1024KmfMjf1024 member

    I wish I had taken people seriously when they told me how hard breastfeeding would be. In addition to your pp hormones putting you seriously on edge - when your milk isn't flowing right, it screws with your hormones even more. I probably logged a coupl

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  • Kingston54Kingston54 member

    Breastfeeding is extremely hard.  Aside from having a medical reason you can't do it... you have to be dedicated and work really hard in order to stick with it.  Especially on your first child.  I went through a rough first 6 weeks to br

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  • sara7238sara7238 member
    sounds about right. I wish people would have been honest with me that it's not all puppies and rainbows instead of saying how good for them breastfeeding is, that it's natural and "enjoy the time because they grow up so quickly". Don't get me wrong, I lov
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  • buffyverrban1buffyverrban1

    I'm going to reply to each thought seperately. 

    1.) Your friend.

    There is a lot going on, her body just went through something crazy and it is very hard. I think she probably doesn't need advice, she probably just needs someone to list

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