Total b!t@h day? Advice on how to handle needed :-)

lvetter622 · March 2013

So my sister in law just had her baby and it gave me a glimpse of what I?m going to have to deal with. While in the hospital she had (short and sweet) 16 family members (5 of which were kids under 10) visit her. Not to mention personal friends. I just thought that was too much so I just called her to see how she and the baby were and told her once she was home and settled I would come over one night with dinner for her and her family to meet the baby then. Needless to say my other sister in law did not approve of such actions and now looks down on my DH and me for not going to the hospital. Is it wrong for me to ask my husband to ask his family to keep the visits down and not to bring their kids? I?m not one for attention and being my first baby I feel selfish asking this but I just want it to be us for a while. The whole kids thing and I may be over doing it here is about the germs, I have gotten so sick this winter and just don?t want to deal with germy people any freaking more.

LaSraOrtega · March 2013

Depending on where you're delivering, there are rules on who can come visit.

At our hospital children under 12 are not allowed in unless they are a sibling to the newborn due to germs and infections.

Plus our ward is pretty secure and

JilllyBean · March 2013

The advice i have gotten is to keep visitors at a minimum. To be honest, I think most hospitals do not let children visit unless they are immediate siblings. I know that is the policy at mine. You get booted so fast from there you want time to bond with b

1026pumpkin · March 2013

I don't think you're wrong at all, and some hospitals don't even allow non-sibling children to visit. If I were in your shoes, I would wait until after you've delivered and are ready for visitors to let people know you are in the hospital and at

JocelynB0911 · March 2013

You are not being selfish. With the flu still going around, not to mention other illnesses I am surprised she was ok with so many people there. But hey, to each their own. If it made you uncomfortable going with that many people there and didnt want to

Beaslejl · March 2013

Sometimes I see posts and I just have to comment. This is one. I think that no matter how you go about approaching it you're going to get a ton of visitors. You can deny everyone at the hospital but then they are going to come to your

Mama3+1 · March 2013

At my hospital they only keep you 24hrs with vaginal deliveries so I didn't want a lot of visitors either. But. They all came to my house at once after we were home and I regretted my decision. At least at the hospital I could've said I'm tired or used a

magdalina.h · March 2013

We had a bunch of people come in and I loved it. Tell the nurses and they will help keep visitors down. What I love about my hospital is that if you don't have a code, you don't get in. They won't let husbands in if they don't have the code.

kennazebrowsky · March 2013

I do not want a bunch of visitors either. I do not want my whole family in the delivery room (luckily we are c-section so that's ruled out).

I want to take the chance to rest while I am in the hospital. Of course I want my hubby, kid

jeapplegate · March 2013

I think bringing kids to visit at the hospital is rude. I would not like that. With M only our parents came and that was fine. I wouldn't want that many people to come. Just be clear from the get go. If they are a pushy famil

carrotcake06 · March 2013

I don't want any visitors, except DH, DS, my mom and my sister. Everyone else can wait.

Hell, I didn't even tell my family I was in labor until DS was already born. I don't like people up in my business. There's nothing wrong with that.

Cangel24 · March 2013

Beaslejl:
Sometimes I see posts and I just have to comment. This is one. I think that no matter how you go about a

JilllyBean · March 2013

Cangel24:
Beaslejl:</s

ekoenig4 · March 2013

I would just be honest and tell them all that you feel uncomfortable having guests at the hospital and that you would be more than happy to have people visit when you get home. Its not like your saying that they cannot see the baby you just want to be com

coraggiosa · March 2013

Tell your husband you don't want lots of visitors in the hospital. This should really be your choice, considering you are the one who has to go through labor. I feel exactly the same way, and I plan on only having my parents and my brother visit while we

thedash · March 2013

I say keep them out! We were overwhelmed with visitors hours after an emergency c/s while DS and I were both battling infections. DH had to literally tell his family to get out and stay away. He declared a "no visit" day while we were at the hospital beca

katiebenes · March 2013

If my nieces were closer they'd be waiting to visit until the twins got home.

I wouldn't want everyone seeing me in a blasted robe. nu-uh. no thanks. immediate family and close friends/godparents ONLY.

In a dream world that's what wou

Mrs. Mo · March 2013

Ditto about some hospitals actually haveing rules.

ALSO, while you are at the hospital, use the nurses/staff as bouncers. They are more than happy to do what it takes to keep you comfortable. Most family do not realize that the Mom is an actua

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