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What are your reasons for being OAD?

Mine are both circumstantial and personal. How about you ladies?

Re: What are your reasons for being OAD?

  • My health.
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  • A mixture of not enjoying the newborn stage (despite crazy love for my girl), wanting to spend less money, wanting time to be alone and pursue my own goals, wanting to keep a smaller house, liking to travel, loving to sleep, and a slew of other things


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  • While pregnant with my DD I was blindsided at a regular 30 week doctor appointment with high blood pressure. I was sent to the hospital for monitoring and within a few hours I was told I'd have to stay until she was born because I had severe preeclampsia.
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  • 1. Financial
    2. Age/ health risks
    3. Family feels complete

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  • Our family is complete with one. I just can't imagine changing the dynamic we have now.

    Financial and age are lesser concerns. I'm 35 so not too old by any means, but in order for me to even begin to consider another child DD would have to be
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  • Our main reason is our age.  I will be 41 in June and my husband will be 44.  Also, we've moved to the next stage of our lives.  DS is in preschool and loves it.  I've gone back to work and want to keep my career momentum going. 
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    We haven't decided if we are OAD, but leaning toward yes.

    1. Age. I am 36, will be 37 in June. I don't think my current age is too "old", but I would not be ready until our son was at least two or older to TTC, and I had fertility issues to beg

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  • IT's a mix of reasons for us too.

    Had to go through 5 IVFs and 4FETs to finally get PG w/ DS.  By then, I was in my late 30s'.  So age is a factor.

    DH changed careers, which came w/ a huge financial hit, so $$ is also a factor.</p

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  • MsLsMsLs member

    We are not 100% mostly bc my H says I tend to change my mind a lot lol. But the older DS gets the more certain I become. Medical first and foremost I had a horrible delivery and just really hated being pregnant probably bc DS was huge and I'm really sm

  • 2 in daycare would make be tough money wise.  We both work full time and have no family nearby, so 2 would be rough.  We don't want to move out of our townhouse, and 2 kids would be crowded.  We don't want to go through the newborn stage ag
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  • 1. I'm 42

    2. I had pre-e and bed rest

    3.  SAHD was severely stressed out by caring for a baby (a toddler is fine)

    4. Significant financial issues

    5. Other (personal)

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  • 1. I am an only and LOVED it.  

    2.  DH and I have always liked the idea of focusing our attention on one as opposed to splitting it up.

    3.  I had 2 losses, a rough pregnancy end (hypertension), a rough L&D ending in a C-S

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    Husband & I are both only children, and we've always loved it. Never wished for siblings or felt lonely, only grateful for all the opportunities we otherwise wouldnt have had. And as an adult, I consider it an honor- not a burden- that I will

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  • I couldn't (and don't want to) imagine our family any other way. I never think "Should I have more?" I only ever think "Why would I ever want anything else?"
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  • Mine are

    1. Age -- I'm nearly 43

    2. Significant financial issues

    3. Other/Personal

     

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  • We are one and one because we too would rather have more money than less.  We travel a ton, so it is easier with one child instead of more.  I also am very focused on my career and want to start applying for PhD programs as soon as DD starts sch
  • We are one and done for both health and personal reasons.
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    1. Financial 2. Age/ health risks 3. Family feels complete How're you doing, Mama?

  • DH and my personal preference to only have one; taking care of two does not appeal to us.

    i also have medical concerns as well; I made it thru this pregnancy no worse for wear, but not worth the difficulties/risks. 

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  • My age (40 in a month) and DH's - 

    My job (love it but really really busy)

    Finances

    Tiny house 

    I think I lack the patience for a second (age does not mellow everyone)

    I do not one to go through the whole major n

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  • 1)I babysat my niece and nephew (they are only 2 years apart). I wanted to scream.

    2)financial

    3)kid doesn't have to fight for my attention.
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  • We never wanted any, then we were surprised with one.  We want to give him all of our love and energy, so we are one and done!
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