new here but curious...

Re: new here but curious...

• MamaKrizek

  March 2013

  Trust me there are other issues i was just wondering if anyone else had even the slightest issue with it...he had children from a previous marriage and he put up a fuss with the ex wife but not to the extent that he has with me...this is my first ever pregnancy and i feel like I'm drowning because every emotion or thought is argued or picked apart by him as if he had more knowledge than me about my own body...he even questioned my midwife about something small and earned himself a glare and a lecture from her about him being make, not pregnant, therefore unable to fully understand how pregnancy affects a woman...the situation initially started with me sleeping with a pillow under my belly and behind my back because he was punching and kicking me while sleeping supposedly due to discomfort his while sleeping without cuddling me he would attempt to squeeze me around my stomach ignoring the obvious belly there so cuddling got axed because he cannot be gentle with me...then he started kicking my back, kneeing me in the vagina and punching my kidneys so i put a pillow there...i agreed to try to switch sides of the bed i was on right side of bed now on left side for a week now but as soon as i agreed he said no comfort pillow because the while reason to switch was to cuddle....haven't cuddled once,i haven't slept in a week, but he's out like a baby every night with most of the bed to his disposal while I'm teetering on the edge of the bed about to roll of ontomy back...hell his ex wife even said he's being ridiculous and nothing has changed

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• mama&baby member

  March 2013

  Over a year after LO is born and I still sleep with a body pillow. Seriously. It will be ripped from my cold, dead hands.

  Tell your DH to shove it. You're PG and need to be comfortable (as possible) so you can go to sleep. If he has that much of an issue, the couch isn't that far away. 
  

  

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• MamaKrizek

  March 2013

  Well, he finally switched the bed around last night but failed to inform me so i spent the night on the love seat 4th night in a row and best nights of sleep in weeks!!...and after not saying anything until he got his behind reamed by the angry women, he finally got of his high horse and told his mother who i unfortunately heard her response and it was as if someone told her the sky was blue...bored tone to her voice...between his mommy issue, his mother, and everything else I'm surprised i sleep but I'm a Marine brat so I'm trained to sleep through b.s. Lol....add my very low iron genetically predisposed to anemia plus mid pregnancy anemia and I'm a tired achy mess....i simply do not understand people who claim to view a baby as important yet cannot even tell their own mother because they don't want to deal with her...my mother is no peach but i told her as soon as i found out and she's over the moon!! My stepmother has to be reigned by my dad because she's so exited she's about to buy out every baby store on earth...him and his mother are in a totally different zone...i think its because i don't fake nice with people and i don't sugar coat anything and both of these people are used to lip service from everyone they encounter and I'm not a push over

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• MamaKrizek

  March 2013

  I've also noted that I've had absolutely no desire to be touched by him kissing, cuddling, a hug...makes me feel claustrophobic and my unbelievably high sec drive pre pregnancy is totally gone...but that specific part is due to his issues and my infantry to be intimate with someone who no longer ha an emotional depth with me

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• MamaKrizek

  May 2013

  This is just an update....and nothing has really changed! I am sleeping the way i need to, now, however he's indifferent/disinterested in anything to do with the baby (plays cell phone games during midwife appointments, has no interest or opinion on baby related shopping, other than if he doesn't like something for whatever reason, it's not getting purchased, doesn't pay any attention to my stomach unless it's when he tries to cuddle me or hold me while sleeping and then leaves all his body weight on top of my belly/side...woke up several times with my stomach aching because he had all his body weight on me....last night he tried to hug me and squeezed my stomach in his arm pretty hard...) and explaining anything to him about how he can't squeeze me like that or to please be gentle doesn't sink in for him...at all.

   Im really at a loss as to this bipolar behavior...and getting told that the entire situation is my fault...including his internal issues with his family and with his job and with everything in his life.....hard to be excited about my son coming in 3 months when i'm scared to death that the man that fathered him is going to try to continuously make my life a living hell by being utterly useless....i dont know what to do

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