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Easter Weekend

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This weekend/holiday is DH's. We normally pick the kids up at 6pm friday and as it's during the school year bring them home Sunday at 5. We asked BM on Friday, when we let her know our holiday plans that as were taking the kids out of state we would like to pick them up earlier on Friday if possible. It's a 3 1/2 drive putting us in at 9:30 at night. She normally has the kids in bed at 7, where we do 8:30. I offered to do pick up at 2, to put us in to feed them dinner, let them relax, have baths and bed.

She posts back a few times, then says well if you pick them up early I want them back early on Sunday. Sunday is Easter and also their cousin (from me, which she knows were visiting my family, and thats a HUGE issue for her) birthday as well. We are already leaving at 1pm to make sure we get them home for 5, I was like it's not really doable to leave earlier then that. She then says well I have to work that day, so an earlier pickup isn't doable, especially if you wont bring them home earlier. 

First, her company has all holidays off, even MLK, no way she's working Good Friday. I said well if you had said you were working I would have offered to pick them up in the AM instead of both having to go to daycare as SS won't be in school at all that day. SD has half day of school/day care so already does daycare anyways.

It pisses me off so much that she is never willing to give DH any extra time with them, even if it would benefit them, she would rather they spend the day in daycare then with their father.  

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  • Annplus1Annplus1 member

    It sucks that she won't work with you guys. But my question, and I mean this with no snarkiness, is why are you working this out with her? Your DH should be doing that, especially since you know she has issues that her kids are spending time with some

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  • karatechrissykaratechrissy member
    It sucks, but honestly? I would have requested them back early as well. Not as a power struggle thing, but as a principal thing. You give, you get. It's not her fault you have to travel 3 hrs to get to where you're going. I get that you're upset about jus
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  • xmaryrickxxmaryrickx member
    Good Friday is not a holiday. MLK day IS a holiday. Unless she works for a school or a religious organization I doubt she has off Good Friday. Heck even most schools don't have off Good Friday.
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  • IlumineIlumine member

    Good Friday is not a holiday for anyone but a Catholic School. Your BEC is showing.

     

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  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member

    I'm off on Good Friday but not MLK day. I work for an insurance company. DS's daycare is closed as well (not religion based) as are both my DD's school and SK's schools. But I agree that Good Friday is not a day that everyone is off on and you shouldn'

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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member

    I really don't understand why C parents have to be this way. They have the the child most of the time so what is a few more hours to the other parent here and there?  

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    I really don't understand why NC parents have to be this way. They have the the child most of the time so what is a

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  • cole2144cole2144 member

    If you have an EOW situation and she is begrudging you a few extra hours i can see being pissed since she has them most of the time. I can however understand her position if you guys are in a 50/50 custody situation.

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    I really don't understand why NC parents have to be this way. They have the the child most of the time so what is a few
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    If you have an EOW situation and she is begrudging you a few extra hours i can see being pissed since she has them most o
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  • nattyncbridenattyncbride member

    I could be totally off base, as 1) we do 50/50, so our custody is equal and 2) if this were possible, then you would not be posting, but I still want to ask: Why can't DH pick them up from daycare at 2pm?  I don't see why you have to wait until 6p

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  • bratty44bratty44
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    I would have asked a month beforehand.nbsp; Then any back and forth, ok, we'll bring them home early on our NEXT weekend
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  • 2chatter2chatter member
    I am with Wendi...my pet peeve as a BM is last minute asks - and I consider the week of to be last minute.  I do a lot of planning for the children, and I don't like to waste my time or money.  Now, if it were me, I would eat the money I had pre
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    imagenattyncbride:
    I could be totally off base, as 1 I do 50/50, so our custody is equal and 2 if this were possible, then you would not
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    I am with Wendi...my pet peeve as a BM is last minute asks and I consider the week of to be last minute.nbsp; I do a lot
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  • nattyncbridenattyncbride member
    I saw your response and I am sorry about your situation all together.  I hope you all enjoy your Easter weekend, and that things get better with time (or a better CO, though I know revisions cost money). 
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    I could be totally off base, as 1) we do 50/50, so our custody is equal and 2) if this were possible, then you w

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    If it's not his custody time, he doesn't have the right to pick them up. My DS's school will not rel

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  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member

    What would happen if you agreed to bring them back at 2pm on Sunday and then text her to say you were running late and it wouild be 5pm?

     Also is Easter Monday not part of the Easter holidays?

     I'm off Friday and Monday :)

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    What would happen if you agreed to bring them back at 2pm on Sunday and then text her to say you were running late and
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  • bratty44bratty44
    I would much rather do the return at 7, that means we can stay till 3 instead of 1. I would just want to be sure we are ok legally. She will throw a fit, that is for sure, but she throws one weekly so thats nothing new. We plan on taking her to court soon
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  • hopankahopanka member
    Return them by 7pm. Let them enjoy Easter. Technically, you have till midnight, so 7pm is very reasonable. Unless they are babies younger than 3yo, there is no reasn for the 5pm silliness.
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  • bratty44bratty44
    Thanks. They will be 5 and 7 within the next 2 months. She will just be pissy as she still claims to put them to bed by 7. Even though we return them by 7 during the summer. 
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  • mom2onemom2one member
    I would pick them up at normal start time on Friday and return them on 7 at Easter. Don't ask her for a favor. She doesn't want to give you anything. Then, take your husband's court ordered holiday and enjoy the day.
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