How much dad participates???

roxyttandme · March 2013

How much is Daddy participate in your LOs care? Feedings? Baths? Diapers? Play? Getting up at night? Dressing? Cleaning bottles? All of it!?!?

I'm getting less and less impressed with my hubs. He is doing all the fun stuff and leaving to grunt work for me. I'm about to open a can of whoop ace! Give me some perspective, ladies....

Holly_1007 · March 2013

meh. depends on the day for us. Sometimes he is super helpful, others, not at all. Definitely sit down and have a discussion with DH. Guys don't think to do things, they need to be given instructions. For example, when Colby wakes from a

starrysmile18 · March 2013

This is what our schedule looks like:

5:30 I wake up and shower/get ready for the day. DH changes C and gives bottle. Will generally entertain C until I'm ready to hit the road for daycare.

3:00-5:00 All Mommy,

angeleighhh · March 2013

he will do it all and I don't have to ask. unless he doesn't know if LO has a dirty diaper I just say hey can you change him? and no issues.

Nita2603 · March 2013

He does all baths currently. Everything else rte shared evenly when he is home. And he changes most poopy diapers, because he is nice like that.

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jussagirl02 · March 2013

I feel like MH helps out a ton. He helps with feeding when he can (I BF from the tap when I'm home, so if I'm out he'll bottle feed), we alternate bath nights and diaper changes when we are both home, and he's really good about playing with DD or

CdnFarmGirl08 · March 2013

Feedings- I'm still EBF with the odd bottle, he'll try occasionally but DS fights the bottle still so he finds it hard to give it to him

Baths- he gets it ready and does the first "shift" (aka playing in the bath) then I come in and wash him and

MarisaKathleen · March 2013

My DH is a better parent than me. He's much more patient and will put up with N's shananigans better than I do. We are equal with the feedings/diapers, although she does poop for him way more than for me. I get her dressed, just becau

MomtobeNJ · March 2013

My DH does a lot. He does ALL the bottle washing and prep and all the laundry. I do all the cooking and DD's bedtime duties (because he works nights 4 - 5 days a week). We split everything else pretty evenly.

Kris2011RN · March 2013

Holly_1007:
meh. depends on the day for us. Sometimes he is super helpful, others, not at all. Definitely sit down

MommaP12 · March 2013

You ladies are going to hate me. DH does it all. He does more than me. Because of him, our DD isn't starting daycare until next Monday at exactly 7 months old. He has been with her every single day since birth (though I had 8 we

hmp1 · March 2013

He does the dishes every night, so that includes the bottles. He makes the bottles for daycare. He usually does the motn feeding. We used to take turns but I have such a hard time going back to sleep, he usually does it for me. I probably do it every 3

MRoxy0628 · March 2013

tara1223:
I do most of it..but DH does it when I can't/he does other things, it would be a hell no if he was sitting on his n

[Deleted User] · March 2013

We both work 5 days a week, 8am-5pm. That being said, I'd say the baby duties are split about 70/30, me doing most of the work. I don't mind it, and he will do something if I ask him to. Also, his work schedule recently changed so that he's off on Thursda

JennH28 · March 2013

DH will do all of it. Sometimes I have to ask but he has been generally awesome. He does all the bottle washing. He will give a bath if I ask him to I usually get in the bath with DS though. He is great about diapers, putting him to sleep, feeding... And

BillyMollyEmmy · March 2013

DH is an amazing dad and is an awesome help with the baby, but he drops the ball major on household chores, so we're working on that.

PenelopePond · March 2013

DH does almost nothing. Occasionally I had Sean off to him so I can run to the bathroom or something, but not much beyond that. If he is "in charge" he immediately puts Sean in the jumperoo or high chair. Feeding and changing diapers? Doesn't happen. I d

Teresa and Family · March 2013

He is a rock star dad, except at night. When he is working, I don't mind at all, but on his days off, it would be sometimes nice if he got up and did a bottle so i could sleep. But he changes, feeds, rocks, play etc with her.

Hyaline · March 2013

I feel like I'm the default caretaker--that is, I'm usually asking DH to do something like change a diaper. He's very helpful but not terribly proactive--which is kinda how he is normally, though.

You're "less impressed" with him--I'

klgrh6 · March 2013

DH helps out a lot so much that sometimes I feel like I need to be doing more. He's amazing and has so much fun with Evie. He has already been thinking of TTC because he loves having a baby, I'm so not ready. I work part time so I have two days off a

gingerfamily · March 2013

I don't keep track of how much he does and I couldn't ever imagine doing so. He's my husband not my child. If I need him to do something, i ask. And he asks if he needs me to do something.

I think it is belittling to say a husband needs ins

Bighair12 · March 2013

I BF so he doesn't really help with that as it is easier for me to just feed her in the night as well. He has been really good with getting up early with her if she just wants to get up and letting me sleep.

We rotate diaper ch

Shazzie116 · March 2013

We're a 50-50 house. Neither of us would have it any other way. If she's up on nights where he's off and I have to work, he gets up. I do the same on nights he has to work. We both do bottles, diapers, feeding, dressing, playing. I think it helps that he'

cmarie520 · March 2013

Betty&Co:
We both work 5 days a week, 8am-5pm. That being said, I'd say the baby duties are split about 70/30, me doing mo

linzeek44 · March 2013

I do the feedings since he nurses and we don't do bottles. DH is at work, but when he comes home one of us cooks while the other plays with the baby. E eats with us at the table.

Usually I clean the baby while DH cleans the high chair. Then i

ifwisheswerefishes · March 2013

DH is a great dad. I EBF with the occasional bottle (if I'm not feeling well) so I take care of most of the feeding stuff. I also bathe with Marian so I take care of that, too. Other than that, we split everything 50/50.

kjskjs · March 2013

For us, it depends on the day because between work, school, and clinicals my DH is rarely home. However, he is really good about being involved in as much as possible and I'm spoiled. He does all of the night feedings(if he's home when they happen, he goe

bosha711 · March 2013

It's pretty close to 50/50 here, not including me BFing.

He gets up with DS, gets him ready for DC while I pack his lunch & snacks. He brings him to DC. I pick him up, get our dinner ready & help him eat. MH gives him a bath, does pjs, b

MeatballEsq · March 2013

I do probably 95% of it, especially since many days of the week I'm home alone with him (since DH works 24 hour shifts). DH has really picked up my slack though around the house. He does a lot more of the laundry, vacuuming, etc that I used to do. I d

TCMom78 · March 2013

While what Holly said might be a stereotype, it's true in my house too-- although many times DH does things on his own, it's often that I'll say, "did you change his diaper?" and I'll get a reply "you didn't ask me to," or "you just said to go and get him

Eastie156 · March 2013

It's changed for us over the last 6 months. In the first three months, I did about 90 percent of taking care of E. DH was working full time and at law school 4 nights a week. So basically 15 hours a day, 4 days a week it was me. It was HARD. Especially de

L8kissie · March 2013

Dh now does about 40 to 50, but he needed to be very carefully trained. He sometimes needs a refresher on what he must do. He was useless when we had ds. It caused some tension. We've worked on it. He needed to be assigned specific tasks because he doesn'

L8kissie · March 2013

I should change my post to state that he does more with ds and I do 75 percent of dd. It worked for us to split it in that manner. He'll do more if requested.

Krista123105 · March 2013

This is our schedule:

~Wake up, I immediately nurse DS2 and DH goes to fill bottles for daycare. He also packs breakfast for DS1 and solid food for DS2. I pump while he gets DS1 out of bed, takes the dog out, etc. We both superv

jayja2007 · March 2013

Dh is only good at playing. He never remembers to change a diaper unless it's really full like an over night diaper. He sucks at cleaning bottles. He does get her dress on occasion when I'm at work. I do baths and bedtime BC we work different shifts he

Flamingemu · March 2013

I'm lazy and haven't read any responses yet...

DH is a generally lazy person. That being said he will do anything for L if I ask. He will change her and play with her without needing to be asked. He only feeds her if I ask him to since I am still

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