August 2012 Moms

Love child

My co-worker recently found out he has a 16-year daughter from a brief relationship when he was younger.  He is married, has a daughter and another on the way. His 16 year-old daughter has now moved in with his family.

How would you feel if it was discovered that SO/DH had a child from a brief relationship before you were together?  

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Re: Love child

  • I would not be happy. Call me selfish, but he's MINE! Well, ours. I love our 3 person family.

    Apparently my dad has a son in Bermuda that he's never met. Doesn't surprise me. The man worked on a cruise ship for some time before coming to the
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  • I'd be pissed. I can't think of anything else to say that I can say without sounding like a greedy little assshole, but I'd be pissed.

    I will give you one reason - I purposely have never dated anyone with kids (no offense to those that have). I d

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  • I would be pretty irate, and need every possible detail. But it would also not be the child's fault, so I would do my best to lovingly welcome him/her into my family. There would also be very clear boundaries with the baby's mother.
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  • Id be upset but would accept the child.
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  • I have a love-child stepson who just turned 17! However, I knew about this before we even got together. We see Kaleb less since we moved to Ohio since he lives with his mom and her husband in Kentucky, but he's still a part of the family.

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    I'd be really pissed at the woman that didn't inform my H about his child. I would work hard to try and build a g
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  • I would be furious. At my husband. It probably makes me a hypocrite since I had two kids before I met my husband...
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  • This actually happened to my uncle. Years before he was married he was in a short term relationship with this woman. They broke up and went on with their lives. About 9 years go by and she comes to him and told him she thinks he's the father of her dau
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    I'd be pretty upset that the woman never told DH.  But I would be as supportive as I could be of DH having a relationship with the child.  Although it would probably be a little difficult at first considering how long we tried to have DS and eve

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