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Anyone else one and done?

DivallynDivallyn member
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Sometimes I feel like we are alone in our decision to be one and done.

We have lots of reasons but the main one being I had wicked wicked post partum depression and insomnia with our LO and my doc says I will more than likely experience it with a second baby and it could not go away that time as it's in my family history for women to develop chronic depression after giving birth and I don't want to risk it.

I am happy with our choice as I know it will be fulfilling and it will afford us the life we invision for our son and ourselves but sometimes I get a bit sad that this is our only baby but then I just try to remind myself of how bat sh*t crazy I went, the sleepless months, and the cost of two in daycare and I feel better ... 

What was your main deciding reason?

 

 

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  • shealy12shealy12
    We may end up being one and done. Not by choice though. I would love to have another. However, I have high risk pregnancies, and issues which could possibly lead to a blood transfusion in the womb. We lost our first baby at 22 weeks, and were lucky e
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  • phillyfan929phillyfan929 member
    we are one and done. we're happy with our decision and we feel complete with our family.

    I hated being pregnant and had terrible baby blues. plus we are comfortable financially and a second would be really tight.
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  • meg_2006meg_2006 member
    There's a new One & Done board.  Just saw it today.

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  • TiffanyBerryTiffanyBerry member
    I'm ridiculously torn.  DH is feeling OAD, but I've got stupid hormones that make think I should have another even though I don't know that I want to do all of this again.  If logic wins out, we are OAD.  But it's not like this is a particu
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  • jstrat53jstrat53 member
    DH wants another one but I am not sure I do.  I am torn.  Money is tight right now with one in daycare plus all the other expenses that come with a child.  We would have to really rework our monthly expenses if we wanted to have another one

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  • DivallynDivallyn member

    imageTiffanyBerry:
    I'm ridiculously torn.  DH is feeling OAD, but I've got stupid hormones that make think I should have anoth
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  • noahchristophernoahchristopher member

    I'm right there with you!  I had my son later, at age 37.  I'm definitely done!  He's awesome, so that's not why.  I just feel done.  Zero desire to produce a sibling for him.

    I know what you mean, it seems we're in the

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  • phillyfan929phillyfan929 member
    how do I get to the new board? it doesn't appear in any list I see? is it because I'm using mobile?
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  • Netty_3Netty_3 member
    Well, I'd like to have more...but it's not recommended for me to get pregnant again, and in all honesty, I'm not sure we can pay for daycare fro a second! It's like a mortgage payment!
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  • FabulousMrs.PFabulousMrs.P member

    We may be one and done. We're not 100% sure, but I will not ask my husband to go through the painful shots that he had to have 3x week in order to have DD. (He had a  sperm production issue due to low testosterone.) If he says he wants to do it ag

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  • FabulousMrs.PFabulousMrs.P member
    I should also say that 99.9% of the time, I do feel like our family is complete. I always said as long as I got one healthy child out of all the fertility treatments, that would be enough...and if it just isn't in our cards to have another one, I am total
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  • grrl79grrl79 member

    I am probably one and done. 

    Daycare is hella expensive, and one child is making the finances tight enough.    We are currently "stuck" (thanks to the economy) in a 2 bedroom condo, and I just can't imagine having a se

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  • MrsJetSetMrsJetSet member
    It depends on who you ask. I say we are but DH really wants another. I had a horrible pregnancy and lots of complications with birth. I have zero desire to relive that.
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