Does anyone get a hard time for being "spoiled" enough to stay home?

nofrogs · March 2013

I am still pregnant, but I plan to stay home with my little one. My husband and I discussed that this is what we want for our family when we were dating, so when we got married, we moved into a modest apartment, paid off some debt, and set up our budget so we could live on his salary. Hubby isn't rich, its just a choice that I'm glad we were able to make. My salary would barely cover daycare and commuting costs anyway, and I will feel comfortable going back to work when my little one is around preschool age. I guess I'm just venting, but does anyone else experience these comments? What do you say?

bumpuser8448316 · March 2013

Spoiled? No. Then again I only have a few friends with kids and they both choose to work so they're not jealous in any way shape or form of my being a SAHM.

I also don't really discuss it with people. If someone happens to ask what I do I say I s

ToBeMrsT · March 2013

I never get comments like that. There are a lot of SAHMs in my city and a lot of dh's coworkers have wives that stay at home too. It's pretty common around here.

notkateanymore · March 2013

I'm only called spoiled on here. It's my Metro, people are jelly.

joyfullyfound · March 2013

I've never been told I'm "spoiled" before... ouch. I'd just reply very briefly that your salary wouldn't have covered day care costs, and every family makes the choice that's best for them. You don't owe anyone an explanation, the choice is yours and it's

brooketini · March 2013

I would challenge anyone who calls me spoiled to stay home with my two kids for a day, and tell me if they feel spoiled. My SIL has made a few passive-aggressive comments here and there, but otherwise I've never really gotten any negative reactions.

Mrs.Greg · March 2013

I never got those kind of comments but I worked until my oldest was almost 3.5 years old and my babies were 14 months and I don't think anyone thought I was spoiled! Do you stay at home right now, while pregnant? If so, that might be why you g

AimeeL85 · March 2013

I haven't been called spoiled, but have gotten comments in that ballpark - like "oh, must be nice" in a tone that implies spoiled.

This kind of question gets asked fairly often here and there's always the "well we ARE lucky/spoiled/whatever" and

chelle_chelle5487@hotmail.com · March 2013

I don't think the word "spoiled" has been used but I do get people who make comments, good comments a lot. I am one of the few people in my group of friends and acquaintances that stays home. I do get the "it must be nice" kind of comments but most

peacelove&mama · March 2013

I've had a few snarky "oh, it must be nice to stay home while the rest of us work" comments, but I just smile like I missed the sarcasm and say that DH and I love my being at home for the kids. It doesn't bother me.

treehugginbride · March 2013

Still pregnant and FTM so I am sort of just lurking here... and I am not technically SAH totally by choice.. lost my job and we got pregnant before I found another.. I spend the first 3.5 months or so looking for a job, and by that time we decided that we

BlakeWard · March 2013

Just last week actually my best friend casually dropped "not all new moms are so spoiled, you'll be fine," in a conversation. Back story, I sah and Dh worked from home the first few months after LO was born and is super hands on. She didn't mean it malici

12bailey18 · March 2013

Most everyone here stays at home so it's the norm. I have friends back home that work and they've never said anything like that. I talk to my best friend on the phone in the mornings during her commute to work and I'm usually on my way to Wal-mart with

hjk5000 · March 2013

I agree I've had a few "lucky" comments, but no one's ever called me spoiled. At least to my face.

kcisthebombdotcom · March 2013

AimeeL85:
I haven't been called spoiled, but have gotten comments in that ballpark - like "oh, must be nice" in a tone that im

sbevmc09 · March 2013

KC_13:
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Disneygeek77 · March 2013

Not really, but at first I wasn't staying home by choice. I was more of a unemployed mom. However, once our second came along, I realized that the chances of me getting a job that would justify having two in day care were slim to none so ye

nofrogs · April 2013

Thanks for your comments. I guess I shouldn't let it bother me so much.

Liz4444 · April 2013

Never, but being a SAHM is pretty common where I live. My mother and grandmother stayed home as well. I'm actually one of the few people I know that stays home that doesn't have a nanny (yet, we are getting one after #2).

I'm sure

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