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WW3T Do? Children/pg mentioned (not mine)

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I received an email earlier this week from my SIL (H's sister) about a possible birthday/mother's Day group gift for my MIL.  Her email  suggested a nice rocker/glider so that MIL could "comfortably rock her grandbabies."  A little background, this particular SIL has a 16 mo with plans to expand, and our other SIL and hubby are expecting  #1 in August.

The email was just between the two of us and it was really was very nicely worded, sensitive, supportive, and encouraging in tone. She knows about our IF and referenced it in her email.  She wanted "my honest opinion" and was, "okay with waiting if that would bless us more."  Thoughtful, right?  So, why then, was I raging immediately after reading the email?  Why was she forcing me to think about something I just didn't want to think about..what if we're the only one's on H's side to never have children?

I'm glad I only saved my initial response as a draft, and now have drafted a short and sweet "that's a lovely idea" version.   Now, which to send???  Keep in mind I'm the type that has not purchased one stitch of baby or maternity clothing for myself.  But I'm also the type that is a people-pleaser and will easily roll over on anything that might include confrontation or a conflict.  Was my initial, gut-reaction an overreaction, or should I stick to my guns?


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Me: 31 DH: 31
DX: PCOS/anovulatory/Hypothyroid
SA: normal
HSG: all clear
5 cycles of Clomid/Femara + TI
IUI #1 (7/16/12) Femara 2.5,+ Trigger=BFN
Treatment break Aug. 2012-June 2013
IUI #2 (7/27/13)=BFP!!!
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Re: WW3T Do? Children/pg mentioned (not mine)

  • Aurora1181Aurora1181 member
    I'd probably tell them to go for it with the other SIL but that DH and I would be getting our own present for her.
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  • Peanutz21Peanutz21 member

    I'm not the type to cause trouble(usually) but I absolutely find her gift idea insensitive especially if the intention was for the chair to "rock the grandbabies" when you don't have a LO yet and she knows you've been actively TTC with difficulty. &nbs


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  • PurplePanda2PurplePanda2 member

    I am glad your SIL's email was sensitive to your IF, but I am sure she could have done without the "rock her grandbabies" part.  She should have just said "we found this great rocker for MIL" and left it at that.

     

    I like the ide

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  • ccollins06ccollins06 member
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    Honestly I would probably just go in with the rocker because I hate shopping for gifts!

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    Treatment break Aug. 2012-June 2013
    IUI #2 (7/27/13)=BFP!!!
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  • mfarmer0811mfarmer0811 member

    My DH and I are the only ones on his side w/o children. There are 5 bio. Grandchildren, and about to add 2 more from my SIL's fiance!

    I would just politley decline, while thanking her for being sensitive..somewhat. I think I'd give something els

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    Beta #1-BFP!!! HCG-55 Beta #2--111 Beta #3--2,825 Beta #4 22,031 1st U/S 7-29-13 Saw and heard our little sweet pea's heartbeat!! 109 bpm 


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