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still in PRIDE training

MzReeMzRee
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Hi there, I am half of a newly wed, bi-racial, lesbian couple trying to adopt. We are about half way through our pride training, and I must say, it has been a bit discouraging. Aside from constantly being referred to as a 'resource' parent, I feel like although stepping up and wanting to provide a safe and loving home for kids in the system- we are still the ones on trial. Almost as if our needs or wants are completely on the back burning and everyone else's best interests (understandably the kids) are put before our own (ex. birth parents, foster parents, extended family, ect)

 

I do understand that the kids have already been through quite enough and they are trying to male sure that the people adopting are the best fit- but it still seems disheartening at times when you know that you are there for the right reason.

 

Has anyone else had a similar experience? 

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  • UnknownUnknown
    I am so sorry that people consider you the resource parent.  Yikes!  You are one of the parents.  It is the state laws that are discriminatory!  I am assuming that you are in a state where they insist on one parent adopting i
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  • davidandheatherdavidandheather member
    Welcome! It is discouraging, but keep your chin up. You are doing a great thing for a child. It does not get easier either with feeling odd the way they classify you, dig in deep to your life, dealing with the system etc.  We had our quarterly inspec
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  • GulfCoasterGulfCoaster

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    I am so sorry that people consider you the resource parent.  Yikes!  You are one of the parents.
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  • MzReeMzRee

    Thanks for all of your feedback and kind words! Actually, we are in Canada- so we are both sharing equal 'labels' and rights (luckily). 

    We are definitely trying to hang in there, but I'm not going to lie, it has definitely&nb

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  • mtenderemtendere member
    Everything you are saying makes sense. We are considering beginning the process and it's just all so overwhelming that we question whether its the right path. I can't answer that question, obviously.

    I will say that aim also in the process t
    ***************************** Our beautiful daughter was born in October 2009. Turns out she was quite the miracle. After two years of TTC, diagnosed with DOR. A couple of failed treatment cycles later, we decided to let go of our hope for more biological children and explore adoption.
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  • MzReeMzRee
    Thank you all for your support and feedback! We have about a month left in training- then comes the home study! Last week they talked about getting a lawyer "just in case" we need legal advice or assistance... It just felt like yet another weight on my sh
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