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Struggling with PGAL

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I hope its ok to post here. I have just been struggling with this BFP and acknowledging that Im pregnant and everything is going to work out ok. Well tonight SIL that lives close by and we see all the time just announced they are pregnant and due a week before me. All I could think about was what if I have a constant reminder of what my baby should be doing if things don't turn out. I want to be happy for them but right now Im just struggling with my own crap. FIL was the only one who saw my face when they announced and I must have looked horrible because he was trying to make sure I was ok all night. Sorry no real point to my post except to vent.
BFP CP 1/12/11 DD born 10/16/11
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Re: Struggling with PGAL

  • SharonB222SharonB222 member
    I'm 10 days behind you and understand ... completely.  For my 1st pg loss, my sister and SIL and I were all due within a week : my niece and nephew are reminders, as the years pass I feel more gently about it.  For my 6th and successful pg,&nbsp

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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    HUGS. I completely understand what you are going through. My cousins wife was due 2 days before us. When we lost our son all I could think was that I hoped she had a girl, as if it would make it easier on me. She had a boy. It is still difficult for

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  • FreyaWin2382FreyaWin2382 member
    Hugs my younger sister found out she was pregnant with my niece one week before my first miscarriage....while I absolutely adore my neice, it has been difficult at times as I will sometimes look at her and think that that is about where my little bug woul
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  • FmrAFBratFmrAFBrat member
    ((HUGS)) I don't think the worry every goes away & I still struggle with 4-6 week pregnancy announcements. It seems like EVERYTHING always works out for them. I'm doing better with people who have LOs close in age to my first due date-I just will always
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  • holly321holly321 member
    I am sorry you are going through this. My sil, and 2 cousins were pregnant at the same time as me. My sil was sent to ld the day before my loss, with bad cramps, they found out they were having a boy. My nephew and my childwould have been about 2 wee
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  • awesnapawesnap member
    Thank you all for sharing your stories. It makes such a difference to have someone understand. And for mesure to know if it does happen, it will get better.

    I love all these BFPs, Sharon and Rachel :

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  • JuddandJessicaJuddandJessica member
    Hugs. I totally get it. With my last loss, my cousin had a baby boy on my due date. I had never felt so broken.

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  • Junebug060609Junebug060609 member
    As someone who's going through what you're fearing right now ::with my recent loss I was due June 12, I have a neice due June 25::, I can tell you that so far it's hard...but I'm getting through it day by day. SIL is blocked from my newsfeed, I seek out

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