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Wwyd? Concerning information about loss

holly321holly321 member
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I never asked what made my baby die.  All I know is my ob said it was a genetic issue, and not one that was likely to happen again.  For some reason it nags at me all the time.  Dh didn't want to know.  We also decided to not find out the baby's sex.  We always refer to the baby as a boy, since the only name we had picked out was Harrison.

 Also, right after I miscarried, we thought I had accidentally gotten pregnant again, and then I started to bleed a few weeks later, and by the time I got betas done, my hcg level was 0. My ob said he didn't think I miscarried, that I had a positive test from my last pregnancy.  I personally think I did, from some info that my ob doesn't know, like the negative pregnancy test a week before, etc.  

anyways, I guess the point is, would there be any point in bringing this up again?  Would it do good to here why the baby died. Or do I really want to here, yes you lost 2 babies, which I guess I do, that way I don't have to feel like a crazy person talking about, " when I possibly miscarried a second time. "

 

Thanks for listening to me ramble.  This has been only mind like crazy, since last week was a year since my possible 2nd loss, and my best friend just lost a baby, had her d&c yesterday. 

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Re: Wwyd? Concerning information about loss

  • FmrAFBratFmrAFBrat member

    ((((HUGS)))) I am so sorry you had to relive that. :( It's tough.  I had something similar happen to me after my loss.  The doctor whe did my surgery told me I could TTC after 2 weeks and a negative pregnancy test.  BAD ADVICE. So I peed

    TTC January 2010
    BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10, 10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2 12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP #4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks
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  • holly321holly321 member
    The thing that also pushes me to believe new pregnancy was I was getting symptoms again, and I am pretty  positive I ovulated about 1.5 weeks after my d&c.  Also, the day I got e betas done,   I started bleeding really heavy after bleed
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  • orangegogglesorangegoggles member
    ::::hugs:::: to me it sounds like not knowing the whole story is really bothering you. I would like to know the baby's sex and reason as I think it would help my grieving process though others are the opposite. It is probably something you will have to di
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    BFP #3 11.17.11~ EDD 7.31.12 ~ MC on 1.18.12
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  • FreyaWin2382FreyaWin2382 member

    I think that it's worth bringing up to your OB because it seems to be weighing on you.

    That being said, following both of my miscarriages and D&Cs I got positive pregnancy tests for weeks following them....all residual hcg levels, not new pre

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