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Should I attend funeral?

ScramblersmomScramblersmom member
in October 2011 Moms

In your opinion should I attend? I am debating this and need to make a decision quickly since it is tomorrow. I would greatly appreciate your thoughts.

The facts:

There is a couple that went to the pool where I go to exercise. They attended the class that starts when I am getting ready to leave the pool so I would only see them/chat for maybe 5-10 minutes at most 1-2 times a week. Since DS has been born I haven't been at the pool regularly so I have seen them even less over the past 17 mos (maybe seen them 1x a month). However, everyone who goes to the pool knows everyone else and we have all been going to the pool for years. The couple was very involved in the community and very nice people. The husband just passed this last week. I know for sure that they recognize my face but not sure if they are aware of my name. I did call the wife yesterday and offer my condolences as well as any help at any time. I wanted to attend to show support, but on the other hand, given that they may not have known my name and will probably have a ton of people there who were very close to them, I was thinking that maybe I shouldn't attend.

WWYD?

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    Funerals are for the living, not the dead.  If you think the wife would be pleased that you were there, go.  I don't think anyone's ever been upset that too many people cared that their loved one passed away, kwim?
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    Funerals are for the living, not the dead.nbsp; If you think the wife would be pleased that you were there, go.nbsp; I do


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  • ChunstadChunstad member
    Yes you should, even to pop in and show your respects. 
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  • jwls84jwls84 member
    imageoverture:
    Funerals are for the living, not the dead.nbsp; If you think the wife would be pleased that you were there, go.nbsp; I do
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    Go!

     

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  • colliebabecolliebabe member
    Maybe I missed it, but is there a wake? I always attend the wake in situations like this, but not the funeral.

    If there is no wake, I think you should go to the funeral.
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  • ScramblersmomScramblersmom member
    Ok, it is settled then. Since there is no wake, and most everyone thinks I should go, then I will go with my first thought and just go to the funeral. Thanks everyone for your input and I especially appreciate the input from people that mentioned the
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