Age and adoption

Flamingo86 · March 2013

Lurker/occasional poster here.

My DH is worried that us being younger will have a negative effect on the adoption process (we are 27/28). We are young but we both have college degrees, stable employment, and are in a good place financially. We have also been happily married for nearly 4 years.

I am just curious what your thoughts are. Do agencies/BMs usually favor couples in their 30s/40s or is being younger no big deal? Also, if you feel like sharing, is there anyone else here in their 20s who has adopted or is currently in the adoption process?

Thanks!

IRR · March 2013

I am LOL because I think you are at more of an advantage than a disadvantage to adoption than couples older than 40. I will let other's pipe in, but there are younger folks on here and sometime I feel like I am the old one on this site. Best o

crene84 · March 2013

Wow, we have a lot in common! haha

I was 27 and DH was 28 when we adopted DD last Sept...I was somewhat worried about that too but it actually worked in our favor. We didn't use an agency, but the EPs that called us said that they were happ

Dr.Loretta · March 2013

I honestly think you're about in the "sweet spot" as far as age and stability go. You're not fresh out of college, you're not heading into middle age. You've been married a few years and you've probably been through some ups and downs and survived them

bumpuser794640 · March 2013

I'm about your age (we're 26/27) and I think we'll be at an advantage over some of the over-40 couples at our agency. I know that EMs will see our profile and be able to tell that we are stable (we've been together 13 years and married for 7 in May)

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Dr.Loretta · March 2013

Also, I'd ask whomever you want to work with about how much of a factor age is with the e-parents who place with them. For example, at our agency religion barely factors at all into an e-parent's decision, but it's a bigger factor with other agencies.

sgb721 · March 2013

We have the exact same stats as you (me 27/ DH 28), college degrees, stable jobs, married 4 years. When I asked our adoption counselor about this she laughed and said it wouldn't be a problem. I am just nervous that EM's might want older couples who ar

Flamingo86 · March 2013

Thanks for all your helpful responses. Maybe this was a silly question, but we are very new to everything adoption. Hoping to post more in the coming weeks/months!

GWUAlum · March 2013

I'm 25 DH is 24. We've been married almost 5 years together for almost 8 years. We're both working on our masters degrees. Good luck with your adoption process I'm hoping our age doesn't hinder us with our process. Good luck!!!

Julie721 · March 2013

FWIW, we were 26/27 when we started the process and were matched VERY quickly. We were told that we would probably be matched with a EM who was younger because they tend to prefer APs who are our age, but that isn't how it worked out. Our DS's BPs are in

Mrs.Slick · March 2013

DH and I are the same ages. Looking at some agencies statistics makes it seem like EM/BM's "like" older parents but if they're reporting averages or median as, then it would be higher than your age since many, many couples don't turn to adoption until old

Proud adoptive mom 6.11.09 · March 2013

FWIW age is nothing but a number. When we adopted I was 21 and DH was 23 our son at the time of his adoption was just shy of 15 years old....

noffgurl · March 2013

I'm 22 and DH is 25. We have been together three and a half years, married for two on the 28th. We have just started looking at different agencies and I've noticed there are a few who won't take someone as young as me, they prefer your age group.

smithpaint · March 2013

Don't think you're too young at all. Should be fine.

ellekae · March 2013

Who'd have thought that I am one of the old ladies around here?! Ha! I'm 30, and DH is 29... But we're doing IA, and China requires that both parents are 30.

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