DH doesn't want me to get EPI

karenortiz · March 2013

In the beginning he said he didn't care. Now that were getting close, he told me he doesn't feel i should get one in fear of it going to baby and "we don't do drugs" I've tried explaining it to him but he says I'm sorry i will hate seeing you in pain but i don't want you to.

So he went to play soccer last night and came home with his knee hurting him and a headache. He asked for some Advil and i told him nope we don't believe in pain med's. He said its not the same. HA your right its not Pushing out a 7-8 pound child through a small child is much more painful!

Any other SO's disagreeing on this?

highlights · March 2013

If he tried, I'd kick him in the junk and hide the ice.

lovelyday39 · March 2013

It might be worth pulling up a website where he can read about it, so he knows what is actually going on.

Everyone's relationship is different, so it isn't my place to tell you how to run yours. But I will tell you if my husband told me that- I w

BabyPerson · March 2013

karenortiz:

In the beginning he said he didn't care. Now that were getting close, he told me he doesn't feel i sh

Fremdschamen · March 2013

WHAAAT?! Your DH is being ridiculous. You are pushing the baby out of your vajajay, so you get to decide if you want pain medication or not. End of discussion.

Good for you for

old_time_girl · March 2013

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1. "We don't do drugs?"nbsp; It's not cocaine!2. "fear of it going to baby" It numbs the mother and never crosses i

PSUBecky23 · March 2013

My husband is the opposite. He's pushing an epidural on me, when i want to go med-free, because he thinks I won't be able to handle the pain.

But I agree with PP - no vagina = no say.

saintpaulJess · March 2013

I had an epi last time and will be going med-free this time. Either way, DH gets no say. He can tell me his opinion, show me information supporting either one, etc. But ultimately it's my decision.

CoachAP · March 2013

My husband wouldn't dare! LOL

In all seriousness - he wants me as comfortable as possible so I sign up to do this again - he doesn't care either way.

karenortiz · March 2013

Thanks Ladies!

and really thinking the tazing idea...HAHA

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

Good thing he's not the one actually having the baby so he doesn't get the final say. Next time he goes to the dentist for a procedure, remind him....we don't do drugs.

MKC12/22/2006 · March 2013

When my H and I went to the birthing class, the thing that scared him most was the epi. The head anesthesiologist came and explained it all, and it apparently was too much for DH! It freaked him out, and he asked me if I thought I needed one. I told him I

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

MKC12/22/2006:
When my H and I went to the birthing class, the thing that scared him most was the epi. The head anesthesiologi

JSS1002 · March 2013

Answering before reading other responses.

My husband would never DREAM of even having an opinion on this. He will support whatever I want to do.

Also you should have him do some research becasue there's absolutely no evidence t

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

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Casie13 · March 2013

I am choosing a med-free birth and DH has basically said that whatever I decide to do, he will support me. In your case, I would just tell DH that YOU are the one going through this, not him. So, YOU will decide what is best for you at the time. It's real

rayofsunshine99 · March 2013

MH is the opposite. I'm hoping for a med-free birth and learned that he is scared of seeing me in pain and not being able to do anything about it. He wants me to get an epi. Instead, I hired a doula

skidderdo · March 2013

Not his decision. My epidural was magic. MAGIC. I loved it and it helped me have an absolutely wonderful, calm, and happy birth experience.

skidderdo · March 2013

Also, LOL! Getting tased in the stomach every 90 seconds is a perfect description!

Sissy1230 · March 2013

old_time_girl:
Hahah! I'm losing it at the tazing him! I like that idea! DH should be supportive of whatever you choose.</

AtlJuneBride · March 2013

DH knows that when it comes to my body, he needs to keep his mouth shut. If he said anything like that he'd be sleeping on the couch for quite a while. Having said that, I think DH prefers that I get an epi. It scares him to see me in pa

rayofsunshine99 · March 2013

NandaB:
rayofsunshi

jacmahan · March 2013

Hah, brave man...

Of course both me and my DH would prefer for me to be able to handle this pain like some kind of warrior woman and just power through but we're very aware that we have no idea what to expect and it would be pointless, irresponsi

tobejesskoz · March 2013

I like the taser idea Big Smile

And my dh knows better than to think he has a say in my pain management while pushing out an 8+ lb human being.

Telebell · March 2013

That's so funny! My H started forming the same opinion recently, after having none for a long time. I told him he doesn't have a dog in this fight. I also considered hiring a doula b/c I'm a little worried about his "just power through it" sportsinform

principessa81 · March 2013

No. My H said since I'm delivering the baby he wants me to have whatever kind of birth I want. And frankly, if he tried to pressure me one way or another (either going natural or pushing for me to get the epi) I would nut punch him. This is SO not your H'

lovelyday39 · March 2013

principessa81:
No. My H said since I'm delivering the baby he wants me to have whatever kind of birth I want. And frankly, if

lovelyday39 · March 2013

SpringPeeper:
I can't believe how many of you would wish violence on your husbands! He is the head of the household and it's h

principessa81 · March 2013

lovelyday39:
Spring

pinkiemo · March 2013

Though I totally agree with everything already said, I do think it's important just for the sake of sanity in the delivery room for you and your H to sit down and research the epi. It will be so much easier for you to get him on board, or at leas

love4b · March 2013

JSS1002:
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Also you should have him do some research becasue there's absolutely no evidence that an epi g

synchrosally · March 2013

mirroredimage:
1. "We don't do drugs?" It's not cocaine!
2. "fear of it going to baby" - It numbs the mother and n

synchrosally · March 2013

SpringPeeper:
I can't believe how many of you would wish violence on your husbands! He is the head of the household and it's h

jss1482 · March 2013

OhSewCrafty:
Good thing he's not the one actually having the baby so he doesn't get the final say. Next time he goes to the

WorkinWeezel · March 2013

Your DH needs to shut the hell up. He can have an opinion, but you don't need to follow it.

I loved your response to him!!!

teddib20 · March 2013

This is what I say:

kateb171 · March 2013

Wow! I was actually considering going med free for a long time until I recently changed my mind - partially because DH was hoping I would get the epidural because he didn't want to see me in pain! He told me he would be okay with whatever I chose, but he

kateb171 · March 2013

teddidan:
This is what I say:

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jkkg317 · March 2013

I read the title and my first thought was, "Did you tell him to go eff himself?". I asked my Hs opinion on everything from epis to bfing and his reply was that it was up to me because he trusted me to make the right decision for my body and our b

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