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Feeling like a failure

fivefeetsmallfivefeetsmall member
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Ok so FTR I've really wanted to do this thing without interventions, but Gestational Diabetes is not on my side. I was told that I'm 80 percent effaced and that's it no dialation, negative 3 station or more on Monday. I'm scheduled now for an induction on Sunday and will be almost 40w. He wanted to do it tomorrow and I balked. Anyhow, I've tried drinking red raspberry leaf tea, bouncing on the ball, swinging my mom read that somewhere so I thought what the heck, nipple stimulation, walking, a foot massage with acupressure, and squatting. Not a thing. I feel like such a failure because everyone just keeps asking if I'm having contractions yet, if I've felt her drop, etc. I feel like as a woman my body should do this naturally and like people are looking at me like I'm abnormal. I just broke down and started crying because I really didn't want an induction and I don't like feeling like a sideshow. Thanks for letting me vent.
ETA corrected some things mobile screwed up.
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  • JSS1002JSS1002 member

    There is nothing unnatural about concieving, carrying, and delivering a baby no matter what it takes to get there.

    Do what you have to do -- the only person making you feel bad is yourself.  You just have to let it go.  There's no troph

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  • ClandestineXClandestineX member

    You shouldn't feel like a failure. Everyone and every pregnancy is different. You have to realize that America (well all first world countries really) medical practices are becoming 'mainstream'... women get induced/c-sections/what-have-you for a multi

     
     
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  • MrsMommyofDomMrsMommyofDom member
    You are not a failure. You made it to term! You should be happy and excited. I can understand about not wanting that, but your body is in control. You need to relax yourself and try and bond with baby. These next few days are going to fly by. GD is not fu
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  • PansyPantsPansyPants member

    I can understand feeling dissapointed because things aren't going as you hoped. Sometimes our bodies need extra encouragement and sometimes our baby isn't ready when our body needs it to be. We have hospitals and doctors to help insure that even when t

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  • RussianMommyRussianMommy member

    you can't induce labor on your own. hormones do that for you (FTR, that tea supposedly tones the uterus, nothing to do with induction). But you know what will stall labor? stress. stress will stop progesterone from lowering. so find ways to RELAX, inst

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  • guilletskichukguilletskichuk member

    Please try not to feel like a failure! I really don't have anything else to add other than what the other PPs already said. You just have to do what is right for you and LO...no matter what that is. Please try to go into this weekend with an open mind.

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  • MelmelJMelmelJ

    imagefivefeetsmall:
    Ok so FTR I've really wanted to do this thing without interventions, but Gestational Diabetes is not on my side
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  • Spacebunny19Spacebunny19 member

    You are NOT a failure! *HUGS!*

    I had GD with my first daughter so I understand the concerns & why they won't necessarily let you get beyond your EDD.  But it IS just an EDD and if you didn't have GD then your LO would come when (s)he is

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  • blondbomber23blondbomber23

    Today (well, yesterday now) is my due date and I'm still pregnant :) I had my first child at exactly 38 weeks so I expected things to be moving along by now. The practice I go to doesn't induce until 41 weeks unless there's a medical reason (my platele

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  • fivefeetsmallfivefeetsmall member
    imageSpacebunny19:
    You are NOT a failure! HUGS!I had GD with my first daughter so I understand the concerns amp; why they won't necessar
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  • fivefeetsmallfivefeetsmall member
    imageguilletskichuk:
    Please try not to feel like a failure! I really don't have anything else to add other than what the other PPs alrea
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  • fivefeetsmallfivefeetsmall member
    Thank you ladies! You all have helped me feel so much better about this. I'm going to relax. I'm not going to let any of my family push me into any more natural induction ideas and just take the next few days to finish getting ready for LO.
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  • Pearls+OystersPearls+Oysters member

    I just wanted to add...

    Getting pregnant, and making it full term with a sane mind, with every BS thrown at you in these past 9 months was an achievement in itself. So are you a failure? No, you know that.

    Is it okay to feel like one for a

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  • sarawalkssarawalks member
    My friend just delivered in February. Her doctor wanted to induce her since she hit 40 weeks and baby boy did not want to come out. She refused and wanted to wait at least a week to see if nature would take its course. Nature did, she delivered 4 days pas
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  • genmccarleygenmccarley member
    Induction doesn't always mean that you need all the medical interventions available! I was induced and started at 1 to 2cm and 50 effaced and I only needed cervadil in for 2hr before they took it out and I was in full on active labor, 7hr later he arrived
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  • MyaMaternityMyaMaternity member
    There is nothing wrong with being induced.  I was induced with my first two and trust me when labor started I definitely felt real contractions and went into real labor.  Also eventually your body would start having contractions and you would ha
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  • UnknownUnknown
    The annoying thing about the human body is that it does whatever it wants to do. As much as we'd like to believe that things go in a certain order pregnancy has proven through generations that not one person goes through it the same way. It's frustrating,
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