advice...if you did Ferber

Sela2012 · March 2013

So my EBF DD is 6 and a half months old, and has always been a bad sleeper. She takes multiple little cat naps during the day, and has always had at least two night feedings. All this was fine until at 3.5 months she started waking 5-8 times a night. I thought it was 4 month wakeful, but it never went away. So I realized, after the pediatrician assured me this was not normal or good, that she just had bad sleep associations. Namely being rocked to sleep, and we decided to tackle those. We began Ferber last friday.

The first two nights were great, she only cried for 26 mins the first night, and not at all on night 2. I still fed her twice during the night, since I really only wanted to tackle one prob at a time. NIght 3 was bad...she cried for 26 mins again and actually woke completely multiple times that night. We did the intervals, and I hoped it was just a fluke. Sadly every night since then has been the same...only she goes down easy at bedtime now. She still completely wakes multiple times a night, and we are on night six. I thought it would be better by now! Last night she cried off and on for 45 mins at one of her wakings, I almost gave up.

Now for what I think we're doing wrong...I admit I can't take the crying, so I haven't ever really expanded the intervals since night two. I still go in at five mins, then at seven, yada, yada. I think I also do this because DD always has here arm stuck when I go in, and I imagine her in pain or something. Also she can't roll from belly to back yet, and will get stuck on her tummy which she hates. DH thinks it will get better if we do the intervals correctly, and that I'm making excuses for her. I think that she doesn't understand why she gets fed when she wakes sometimes and doesn't at others...so I would need to night wean to fix the issue, which I'm just not ready for yet. Uggh...I am lost. I really don't like her crying for 45 mins a night, I only agreed to Ferber because it seemed like a fast solution.

If you got this far into my novel, thank you. I just want to know what others experience is, and if everyone agrees with DH lol. We do have the book, so I can look up anything someone thinks I've missed. For any anti CIO folks, trust me I didn't come to Ferber lightly..I was at the end of my rope.

mamaHippo23 · March 2013

I do think it's easier to Ferber once they've given up the MOTN feedings. Because like you said, it is confusing if they get to eat one time, but not every time. And it's also harder for you to distinguish if you should be trying to feed her or leave h

Aisham28 · March 2013

Fixing a problem at this stage is going to take more like 2 weeks most likely. There are several methods for teaching yout baby to self soothe. It sounds like you are not prepared for the ferber method....I am not a big fan either. I never let my lo CIO.

danieliza1127 · March 2013

We did Ferber for going to bed but since my LO only wakes once a night, we still go ahead and give him a bottle once a night. There is a separate chapter about night weaning and you don't have to do it all at once. I'm a little unclear abou

danieliza1127 · March 2013

Also keep in mind a couple of things, the book says if you try it for a few days or a week and you aren't seeing any improvement, it's okay to stop and try again a few weeks later. It could be that your baby just isn't ready. If she is able to

aylafsu88 · March 2013

I never did Ferber but here is my experience. My LO slept great until @ 4 months, she would only get up 2X and would fall back asleep nursing. After 4 months she started to get up 5X or more a night. After @ a month of this I was at my w

pixiedustcan · March 2013

Our pedi said for us to do this as well, and mind you we have not had any issues with our baby girl's sleeping ( she is 8-months). Our bedtime routine has always been the same, we sit down in the rocking chair with a bubba and music on softl

pb_bride · March 2013

Sela2012:
So my EBF DD is 6 and a half months old, and has always been a bad sleeper. She takes multiple little cat naps

brittany&dain · March 2013

This was very tough for me. We did it about 3 months ago and we transitioned DS from our bed into his crib in his own room. The first night he cried for 45 minutes but we just went in rubbed his back and left, our pedi recommended not picking him up and n

DCMerged · March 2013

I am in almost your exact situation. We Ferbered about a month and a half ago. Yet, he still wakes multiple times at night. I have not been ready to night wean but I have been suspecting that the night wakings/crying has not fully resolved because he i

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