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Filing for Full Custody
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My son is 2 years old. I'm finally deciding if I am filing for full custody or not against my ex fiance. Before we had my son, he was very abusive. At one point he ended up breaking my jaw and I needed 2 surgeries to fix it. This is also around the time I found out I was pregnant. He was put on probation for it. He's still on probation for it for violating his probation and also getting a DUI. He never pays child support because he doesn't think it's fair he needs to pay it. He usually doesn't have a job and when he does it's an under the table job so they can't take the money out for child support. The only time he pays is when they take him to court and threaten to put him in jail. Then he magically gets the minimum amount of money they'll take and let him go.
He doesn't see my son. I used to have to force him to see him. And even at that he'd cancel more often than not. He doesn't even have a place anymore if he wants to see my son. He lives in literally a shack. It's a glorified shed. It doesn't have a bathroom or even running water.
My brother is a lawyer and is helping me with getting full custody. He told me that the court fee is $110 though. It's a lot for me right now. I just don't know what else to do. My ex keeps threatening over facebook(not directly towards me) that my son will be taken away from me and he'll have him one way or another. The only reason why my ex wants my son away from me is because I found someone new and I refuse to pay for my ex's probation(I paid for it for a while foolishly because I thought I was in love and needed him in my son's life). The guy I'm with now is very serious about wanting to adopt my son when we get married. It won't be for another 2 years though. I'm just afraid my ex might try to take my son away from me somehow.
Would it be worth the $110?
He doesn't see my son. I used to have to force him to see him. And even at that he'd cancel more often than not. He doesn't even have a place anymore if he wants to see my son. He lives in literally a shack. It's a glorified shed. It doesn't have a bathroom or even running water.
My brother is a lawyer and is helping me with getting full custody. He told me that the court fee is $110 though. It's a lot for me right now. I just don't know what else to do. My ex keeps threatening over facebook(not directly towards me) that my son will be taken away from me and he'll have him one way or another. The only reason why my ex wants my son away from me is because I found someone new and I refuse to pay for my ex's probation(I paid for it for a while foolishly because I thought I was in love and needed him in my son's life). The guy I'm with now is very serious about wanting to adopt my son when we get married. It won't be for another 2 years though. I'm just afraid my ex might try to take my son away from me somehow.
Would it be worth the $110?
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Re: Filing for Full Custody
Yes it is 110% worth it!
My situation is different then yours. In my case was never engaged to her bio. father....In my state which is Minnesota since I was a single mother I was granted full custody when my daughter was born. He would "babysit"
Yes definitely do it. Even if you have to do it slowly by putting a little away every week or borrow the money.
Good luck!
I was too in an abusive relationship- they do not change.
Do not let him convince you otherwise. Take charge of your life so you can take care of your kid.