Bitter McBitterson - Grandma related

jertie · March 2013

I've gotta ask - how often does your LO see your extended family?

I ask b/c my parents don't see Pip a lot - maybe once every 2 -3 months - and they live within a 10 minute drive. They ask about her all the time, get her outfits and take tons of pictures when they do see her - and our relationship is great (really, really great!!). I think I'm bitter b/c my Mom watched my niece and nephew when they were babies and she's only offered to babysit Pip 2 times (when Pip was about 3 mos.). I also asked if they could watch her overnight in August last year, but that's been it. And it's not only babysitting - I would just love for her to spend some time with her. I know my Mom's busy - she's got a seasonal job from Jan - April, she's been running around taking care of an aging parent (in a retirement home), and her father just died in November after a prolonged illness, but it seems like she's not even attempting to make time to spend with Pip. She took off a week from work to go on vacation and before she left she told me me about how she & Dad are making plans for a big trip in May once work is over. I know these are her golden years and she should enjoy them - but I'm left sitting here stewing over when Pip might make her to-do list. PS - I'm not as hard on my Dad b/c he doesn't know how to change a diaper, so he'd never offer to watch Pip - he wouldn't know what to do. He's awesome with her - just doesn't know the basics - KWIM?

Am I being unreasonable? And seriously, how often does your family see your LO(s)?

MickeyM04 · March 2013

My parents and IL's are both out of state, but within two states of us (i.e. it's not a we're in California and they're in NY type of situation). My parents see DS about once every 6 weeks, so since he's been born probably 7-8 times. I

Oatoa · March 2013

Both my parents and my ILs see DD at least once a month. We live about 45 minutes from both. My family sees her more often than that because we all attend the same church.

But know that we see both sets that often because I make the p

hopefulmom81 · March 2013

I would be bitter too.

My mom sees DD at least once a week as she watches her Thursdays when I work.

The ILs see DD about once a month and they are 1.5 hours away.

To be fair, both of my parents are retired. Maybe see how things

JulyMomma2U2 · March 2013

((Hugs)) That's a tough one! I had a similar issue when DS was first born with my parents.. I was home for the first 12 weeks, and then DH was home with DS for 7 weeks, and I was home again for 5 weeks. All in all, it was almost 5 1/2 months that

orangegoggles · March 2013

My parents see DS about once a week usually on Saturdays. Sometimes I make a week night trip but not usually. they live about 2530 minutes away. They have five other grandchildren.

My Inlaws see him about 45 times a week. The live right down

martinimomma · March 2013

DS sees my parents, who live about 20-25 minutes away, every Friday as they are our Friday child care. My mother also occasionally helps out with a couple hours on a weekend day if we need to run non-kid-friendly errands. She and my dad hav

Atleighdan · March 2013

I agree that you have a right to be a little ticked about this. We live in the same city as both my mom, dad and in laws. We see my dad the least, probably once a month or so, but a bit more lately since DS 2 was born. My mom takes DS 1 to swimming onc

jertie · March 2013

Peanut2929:
My parents and IL's are both out of state, but within two states of us (i.e. it's not a we're in California a

Junebug060609 · March 2013

Mine see D pretty much never.

We live on the opposite coast. Apparently I have to perform a miracle ::read: give birth:: to get my parents out here. They only have come out here that once the three years we've been here. Even better is t

adoxyinherear · March 2013

Not often

My ILs are out of state and so is my mom, and my dad lives 45 minutes away. My MIL drives me bonkers, though, so I prefer the distance.

LoveOfMikesLife · March 2013

I would be bitter too. He'll I am bitter! My mom has seen my almost 8 month old 3 times. 3! NEVER calls to ask how he is or anything. However she sees my sisters kids everyday. Babysits them all the time and buys them tons of things and always shows of

Teresa1896 · March 2013

I would be bitter too. My ILs live about 10 mins away and are our childcare 2 days/wk, and we see them again for Sunday dinner. FIL is retired and MIL teaches 3 days/wk. I think they'd watch DD 3 days/wk if MIL stopped working.

My parents liv

chloebeth930 · March 2013

DD is my mom's only grandchild. Before she was born my husband got stationed in NC we are from Indiana. After she was born I lived with my mom for 4 months DH was in Afghanistan. After he got home and I moved back to NC my mom couldn't stand to be away fr

Izabella22 · March 2013

The 10 min away thing would bug me, for sure. I would say something because that seems kind of ridiculous.

I have bitterness about G's time w/ my parents - they live 2 hrs away and they do make a really great effort to see him at least twice a

Sonadora · March 2013

Our parents are far away. ILs see her maybe 2x a year, they are a 6 hour plane ride. My parents try to come once every 6ish weeks or so, they are 6 hour drive.

If my parents lived close like yours, they would keep B and be our care providers. M

FreyaWin2382 · March 2013

Both my parents and my ILs live about 90 minutes away and see DS a few times a month. They all however require daily picture texts and updates. However, my parents see my niece every day (my mom watches her and they live 15 minutes away).

I think

monica92603 · March 2013

Before DD was born, MIL said she'd help out "when she could". I was pleasantly surprised when it turned into every weekend. My mother comes up every Sunday and watches both kids on Mondays while H and I work. MIL lives about an hour north a

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