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Mamas of 2 or more

twohniyttwohniyt
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I just found out last night that I am pregnant with my second.  This is not a planned pregnancy since I was on birth control.  My husband and I are still in shock.  I am actually excited about it since we were going to talk about trying for a second in the fall.  He is having a hard time and feeling guilty for our daughter who is 19 months old.  He says he feels bad for her and doesn't want to sacrifice time with her.  Which I understand, although I think she will love having a brother or sister.  I come from a family with two sisters and he is an only child which could be why he feels the way he does.  I think he wants to be excited, but he keeps going back to her.  Any suggestions on things I can say to him to help ease his mind and get him on the excited bandwagon with me?
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  • Jen0204Jen0204 member

    Were you two planning on her being an only child?  If so, I can understand his perspective but if not, this was going to happen at some point? 

    When I found out we were having twins I was bummed that I wasn't going to be able to dote o

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  • mommy0411mommy0411 member

    I definitely understand that feeling! My newest DS is due soon and my first DS has special needs that we didn't know about until after I was pregnant again. The thing that makes me feel better is when my DS's neurologist told me that giving my son a si



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  • greengirl0909greengirl0909 member
    Because we're older parents, our boys are about 2 years apart. I started feeling some guilt, but a very smart friend pointed out this- everyone always worries about the first one being cheated by the second, but the fact is, your first one is the only one
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  • docmay25docmay25 member
    My first two children are 19 months apart.  At first I was a little sad that I wouldn't have more one on one time with my older son.  They are now 8 and 6 years old and have always been the best of friends.  Seeing how they have been togeth
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  • memali26memali26 member

    Honestly, just give him time to adjust to the idea. Our two are 19 months apart and the second was planned and very much wanted, but it was still a bit of a shock to realize we would have two, and it took some time to get used to the idea and be excite

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  • twohniyttwohniyt

    Thanks ladies.  Your comments help a lot.  Glad to see others go through the same feelings.  It will probably just take a little bit of time for him to get excited. 

    Jen0204, we

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  • Leap08Leap08 member
    My girls are almost exactly 2 years apart, and I remember having similar fears. I worried that DD1 wouldn't get the same amount of attention and that it would be hard for her, and I worried that DD2 wouldn't get the same attention as a baby that DD1 had.
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  • Mustardseed2007Mustardseed2007 member

    I am also prego - due in Late october/early nov. Not exactly sure yet.

    We actually planned it, but for whatever reason, after I actually got pregnant I started to have the same thoughts as your husband.

    We REALLY dote on our little boy and



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  • twohniyttwohniyt
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    But I just keep thinking about my relationship with my sister. She and I are 13 months apart and she's my

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  • christinak22christinak22 member

    Your kids will be a great age-distance apart! I think mine are the same distance as yours will be and they already love each other so much--it's adorable. My heart fills with more love for both of them every time I see them giggling and playing togethe

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