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When are you allowing visitors and who are they?

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I had a herd of people in and out first time around in the hospital and in my home.  Needless to say, it was so sweet but very overwhelming.  Now that I've BTDT, I'm going to be more picky about who and when people come.

In the hospital: we will let people (including family) know when we are ready for visitors.  We will call immediate family while in labor just to keep them in the loop but ask that they all stay put until we are settled.  My mom will be in the delivery room but that's it.  

Once home: I don't want some of my friends to bring their kids when they visit bc of behavioral issues... and my dog is scared kids other than my own and barks at them the whole time they are at my house.  I have a cute little yippy dog so the bark is painful to listen to.  

Also, DH's family overstay their welcome by hours.  My SIL will stay for days with no plans to leave.  All well-intended, but nevertheless it's too long, and they live locally so it's unnecessary.  They aren't good at social cues, and I'm not one to be blunt in the moment.  My plan is for them to visit at the hospital and then we need a week to just be as a new foursome.  If it ruffles feathers, it ruffles feathers.  I'm praying they understand.

My parents/sister/BIL are just amazingly helpful and thankfully very socially aware of when it's time to go so they can come by whenever.  They've earned that.  

What are you doing?  Have any rules in place??  My DH will let his family know of our plans so I don't have to do it.  Much easier that way :)

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  • UnknownUnknown
    I'm setting it so that only immediate family is allowed to visit us in the hospital and at home for the first week. After that distant family/friends are welcomed.. Does anyone think that's too much?
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  • MsAmeera25MsAmeera25 member
    I told all of our friends they could visit the second day...after that there were no limitations. I don't want visitors at our home so it was great to get everyone out of the way before we went home.

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  • babyalex124babyalex124 member

    imageMianaKay:
    I'm setting it so that only immediate family is allowed to visit us in the hospital and at home for the first week.
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  • SRK128SRK128 member
    My mom,dad,MIL,FIL and probably all of Brandon and I's siblings. They will all most likely come to the hospital after J is born. Friends are welcomed as well. 
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  • nearly_klonearly_klo member
    I'd much rather have hospital visitors than home, it's easier I think. Easier to kick people out, and I don't have to worry about tidying any mess, having any food/drink for people etc.
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  • JSS1002JSS1002 member

    I don't really have any "rules" because I don't know how I'm going to feel or what I'm going to want. Case by case basis, I guess.  FTM here so I'm relatively clueless.

    I assume my parents and brother/SIL will visit at the hospital right awa

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  • Trish&Pete07Trish&Pete07 member

    I don't really care who comes when. We will NOT call anyone when we are in labour, other then MIL who will be watching the girls. We will call everyone when baby is here and we are in my room. We are team green so I know that my mom and sisters will ha

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  • FremdschamenFremdschamen member

    This is pretty easy for me, because I don't have many close friends in my city, and no relatives live nearby! 

    Hospital: No one till the day after LO is born, no one in waiting room while I am in labour.  The next day, my BFF

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  • rayofsunshine99rayofsunshine99 member

    We are definitely putting a "call before you come" rule at the hospital and at home, to make sure it's a good time.  MIL came to the hospital 3 times when DS was born, one of which was unannounced and her and BIL walked in while I was working on B

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    imagenearly_klo:
    I'd much rather have hospital visitors than home, it's easier I think. Easier to kick people out, and I don't have
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  • Mrs.Leah.MariaMrs.Leah.Maria member

    In hospital: I'm not even going to worry about, as it's so different whether LO is born on the weekend or week day. Also, since it's #3, I'm sure our number of visitors will be mainly family.

    At the house: Same thing, as it's #3, I only expect cl

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  • babyonthebrain2010babyonthebrain2010

    I only have two rules for visitors, same as last time.  1. If you come visit in the hospital be aware that you may see my boobs at any given time and if you don't call first you might show up at an inopportune time (baby in nursery, me i

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  • mumsie28mumsie28 member
    My DH will be with me during my RSC. He will be working during the remainder of my hospital stay and then taking his 2 weeks paternity leave once we are home. The hospital is across the street from my MILs subdivision so she will visit me, but she has no
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  • CrazyMary77CrazyMary77 member
    We don't really have the problem of lots of people wanting to drop by. DH's family and close friends all live out of state/town. My immediate family live a 45 minute drive away, and they will be at the hospital for the c-section, and can come over to visi
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  • obie1680obie1680 member
    We are not telling anyone that we are in labor once we are settled into my room in the hospital and it will be immedate family first.  Then we will let other family and friends know that he is here.  I will be blocking my facebook acct so that n
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  • babyalex124babyalex124 member

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    My MIL & SIL must call before coming over they have been so mean to me thru this pregnancy that I do not wish t
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  • manda82585manda82585 member
    This is the part that I am actually kind of dreading about birth. I'm afraid I'm gonna lose it on my ILs for the same reasons you (OP) described about your DH's family. They all mean well, but they don't take social cues and like to show up unannounced, s
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  • blueandgrayblueandgray member
    We have few family & friends in town, so not a big issue for me.  My sister and MIL/FIL who will be in town will visit at the hospital after the baby is born (ie, no waiting in the waiting room), then be helpful the first few days at home (primar
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  • babyalex124babyalex124 member

    imagemanda82585:
    This is the part that I am actually kind of dreading about birth. I'm afraid I'm gonna lose it on my ILs for the s
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  • MN_JenMN_Jen member
    DH's family lives 4 hours away in Wisconsin and my family lives in Colorado. We are in MN, if you didn't know. So the only local people are friends.

    We aren't planning on having visitors at the hospital unless we get bored. If we do, we each
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  • ckhelseackhelsea member
    FTM here but I'm pretty open. The original plan was that my parents (who are on the EAST coast while I'm now on the West) would fly in when I went into labor/near my due date so they could be here for the birth (dad's a nurse, no ish there). I also hoped
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  • PansyPantsPansyPants member

    Absolutely nobody is allowed at the hospital except DH and DS1. 

    When we get home we will be individually inviting people to visit, never more than one visit a day, only my MIL her husband, FIL (I wish I didn't have to see him but I do) and

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  • obie1680obie1680 member
    Since the day I met my hubby his mother has been nothing but mean to me for no reason I have always be nice to her.  I am very fortunate that the hubs is always on my side and happy that I do take the higher road when it comes to them attacking me, i
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