DS (3.5 yo) has had a special blanket since the day he was born. He LOVES that thing and calls "her" "Nicey", talking about her, playing pretend with her, etc. I wouldn't mind so much, because he is only allowed to use it at naptime and bedtime, but when he does use it, he stuffs it in his mouth and sucks on it. Germ concerns aside, I'm afraid it's going to mess up the alignment of his teeth. DH and I both agree he's getting too old for it. So we just moved, and have been telling him for weeks that when we moved, he would get a big boy bed (twin size vs. toddler bed), new bedding, and a stuffed Batman toy, and that Nicey had to go away. He picked out all his own bedding and the Batman and was super excited about them. But when it came to bedtime on the first night, he cried for a while, then fell asleep. The second night, he cried and CRIED and really mourned for that blanket, until we finally gave in and let him have it back.
So how do we get rid of it without breaking his heart?
Re: How do you get rid of a lovey?
I'm not ever going to get rid of my kids' loveys. I still have mine! I know that's probably weird, but I don't have a problem if it's something that will stay in their beds.
My youngest 3.5 is the only one that carries and uses his blanket all the time. He does not leave the house with it. But it is absolutely his comfort item. And the 2nd thing he goes to if he is sad... fortunatley I am the first!
Ha, and my middle son 5, still keeps his blanket in bed with him. Sometimes he brings it downstairs.
I would be concerned about the sucking on the blanket though. But I bet he would start using something else. I would talk to his pediatrician. Also, we wash the blankets a lot!
My DD has a little stuffed bunny (actually we have 4 in rotation)...she sucks on the ears and it is oh so gross...I have talked to her pedi about it and her dentist who we just saw in Jan - neither of them saw a reason at this time to take it away (as far as developmentally and her teeth alignment)....
honestly, I am not concerned. just recently she has started to tell me that she isn't going to chew on bunny's ears any more...so I think she is starting to wean herself (so to speak)...
I don't think taking away a comfort item after a move is the best idea at all...maybe give it a month, talk it up, and give his special lovey a place to watch over hime (I like that idea) if you are set on taking it away...
This. I'd keep emphasizing that he needs to keep it out of his mouth and try rewards for following through.
My almost 7 yo still has her blankie, and she would be crushed if we tried to take it away.
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Just let him have it. He will grow out of it. My beloved blankie disappeared one day when I was probably 5ish and I think my parents just threw it away. It still bothers me deeply to this day. It was really traumatic as you can tell from the fact that it still bothers me. It was like an unresolved loss b/c I never knew what happened and it was so sudden for me. I have no idea what they were thinking. I remember the panic when I couldn't find it and I really mourned the loss of my blankie. It was almost like the death of a person to me at that age--probably worse than it would have been to lose some more distant people in my life. My parents were good parents but this was a serious lapse in judgment. Also, I don't know why they didn't at least keep it somewhere to give back to me years later. I would still have liked to have a scrap of my old blankie, just to have it, and I could show it to my kids.
Anyway, for God's sake, whatever you do, don't just take it away and get rid of it.
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My silly Lily is almost 4.
I would never ever take my child's lovey away. Seriously you are worried about his teeth? Talk to a dentist, I highly doubt he is doing damage! (My DS had his paci till he was 3 and his teeth are perfect!) My DS brings his bear everywhere! To school, the store, restaurants...I don't even want to think of the germs on it, but he's 3 and it makes him happy and it's his security item. Hell my sister is in her 20's and still has her baby blanket!
As a parent you need to pick your battles and this is not one to mess with!