How am I supposed to respond?

Elly&Joey · March 2013

This is my first pregnancy and I am nervous about telling our family we are pregnant. I don't think its anyones business if we "planned" this sweet baby or not but how to I respond to people who ask? I don't want to be rude because I'm sure the people who ask (excluding my MIL) will mean no harm. What have y'all said to those responses from family?

tmims0416 · March 2013

I think asking if a baby was planned is such a rude question! I would want to say "None of your business", I think I'm just going to say that babies are miracles and let them draw their own conclusions. I don't really understand why people fee

Kierasmommy09 · March 2013

I'd just say that that is not what is important,and then switch topics.

fiendelle · March 2013

hmm...you could divert with "too late now to worry about that" or "would it mean something to you if we did or didnt?" ...or go with (my favorite) offensive humor like "well we have LOTS of wild sex so we figured it was bound to happen"- at leas

Elly&Joey · March 2013

Oh thats a good one. "This baby is a miracle" and smile. I like it. Actually I like all the responses! I pray that I wont have to deal with anyone like that. But I def see my Aunt asking out of curiosity and my MIL asking because she will be upset that I

tmims0416 · March 2013

Elly&Joey:
Oh thats a good one. "This baby is a miracle" and smile. I like it. Actually I like all the responses! I pray t

Friebor · March 2013

When i found out with my 2nd.. my step mother asked.. sooo what are you going to do?

I was like.. Have another baby? WTF do you mean what am I going to do? And then she actually suggested aborting.

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YouMe&Bax · March 2013

I will be absolutely dumbfounded if anybody asks me this question - I would never even think of asking somebody that - so I guess I didn't think others would ask something so blunt.

Sally1990 · March 2013

Elly&Joey:
Oh thats a good one. "This baby is a miracle" and smile. I like it. Actually I like all the responses! I pray t

ABColeslaw · March 2013

I've never been asked that question and to be quite honest I'm surrounded by asssholez, so I'm surprised. But honestly, just walk away. It is super rude to ask something like that.

Elly&Joey · March 2013

Yea well my MIL does the exact same thing, DH entire family hated him for standing up to his mom about disrespecting me. He is just now starting to get back in touch with his sisters and granny but he told his mom if she disrespects us or tries to manipul

Sally1990 · March 2013

Wow it seems like were talking about the same person hahah. Yeah its hard because he was very close with his dad and brother and now he never talks to them. My DD and my DH birthday are coming up so i'm sure she will try to pull something real crazy soon.

Tracy6450 · March 2013

I'm already prepping myself for this question. We got it a lot when we announced our pregnancy with DS#2 and since this baby will be 3u3 for us, I know I'm going to get it as well. I'm just going to tell everyone that it was planned. It

shelovesfrodo · March 2013

The rude internet version of me would ask if they planned to take a poop today. IRL, I would probably say yes, (as in God's plan) or just say that the baby came at just the right time for us.

mamabird8 · March 2013

I think that is such a rude question! When we were pregnant with DS, my FIL's best friends wife asked me if it was planned. It was planned and I found it very hurtful that she asked. I don't know why people think that's an ok question to ask or why it wou

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