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Conflicted...

daenerysdragondaenerysdragon
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I went to Planned Parenthood today. They were so nice and they talked about all of the options. I am really conflicted. If I could know one way or another what was going to happen it would make choosing so much easier. If i had an abortion, I wouldn't have to worry whether or not the father would come back in the picture or how I could provide. I am so torn.

I just, I don't know what to do. Looking for advice.... 

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  • sidekick033sidekick033 member
    I think you just need to worry about your situation right now. Make a choice that will be best for you and a child's life. If its not the right time and you can't provide, that's what u should focus on. You have to worry about you right now.
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  • katiebeneskatiebenes member

    If you have the abortion, that will be it... like you said, you don't have to worry.

    If that's really hard for you, you can keep the pregnancy and look into adoption in the case he doesn't come back. 

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    I'd honestly look into adoption.
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  • Princess_LilyPrincess_Lily member

    I don't know what to say to this, except I wish for you to find clarity very soon!

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  • megframe16megframe16 member
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    I'd honestly look into adoption.


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  • msjanet02msjanet02 member
    Hey, glad u took this next step. I want to urge u to listen to what you feel deep inside, and to consult some of your closest, most trusted friends to get their input. They know your life and situation and personality, etc way better than us. That has hel
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  • SoutherndancinmamaSoutherndancinmama
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    I'd honestly look into adoption.


    This. There are so many people looking for babies who ca
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  • countrygurl0101countrygurl0101
    Glad to see you still posting. I know you are facing the hardest choice in your life. But I agree with PPs, you have to figure out what is best for you. You need to think short term and long term with something like this. If he comes back he might not wan
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  • mahnnismahnnis
    I think deep down you know what you want to do. Coming to an online forum to ask strangers for advice on abortion or keeping your baby, speaks plenty. I think you want to keep your baby but you are worried and freaked out... Which is so NORMAL. I would sp
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  • shelliescove3shelliescove3 member
    I wouldn't wait any longer for the babies father to come around... If he is unreliable now he will be later too. You need to count on whether or not you are willing to do this on your own. Unfortunately nothing we say will sway your opinion this is a 100
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  • blushlushblushlush

    Either option can be hard when you're in a difficult situation.  Allow me to share a story, hopefully without harsh judgement:

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  • MommyKayla11MommyKayla11 member
    Perhaps adoption would be the best decision for you.
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  • blakelrblakelr member

    Hi there,

    I saw your post and I wanted to let you know that I COMPLETELY understand how you're feeling....

     A few years ago I became pregnant while I was taking birth control (turns out it was because the BCP was interacting with anoth

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  • cmrussell27cmrussell27 member
    From personal experience you will regret it the rest of your life. Adoption is definitely the better option. It's more inconvenient for you for 9 months but its better for the baby and the parents out there that really want a child and can't have one.
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  • daenerysdragondaenerysdragon

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    From personal experience you will regret it the rest of your life. Adoption is definitely the better option. It's
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  • J+MSJ+MS member

    I don't get the argument that you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it to strangers but you can give it up for eternity. It doesn't compute.

    but that's the beauty of it all, you get to choose. Find a counselor and consider therapy, whether

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  • missjean81302missjean81302 member
    Have you talked with any of your family about it? After reading about your ex, I am understanding more why you are facing this conflict. I am terribly sorry that you are in such a confusing and scary situation. With my first child, I was only 19 and did N
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    I don't get the argument that you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it to strangers but you can give it up for et

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    Ah, I see. You might try speaking with your local battered women's group. There may be some good help and resources

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    I don't get the argument that you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it to strangers but you can give it up for et

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  • blakelrblakelr member
    I would look into the laws in your state regarding PPOs. That may help you to feel more safe while you're making your final decision.

    If your ex were to find out about your pregnancy, maybe it would be plausible to just tell him it's not his
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  • cwillis90cwillis90 member
    As a woman, who has been TTC and has not had any luck, it is very hard to hear the word abortion. you should really look into adoption. There are so many families who desperately want children and cant have them. For someone to be able to carry a child an
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    As a woman, who has been TTC and has not had any luck, it is very hard to hear the word abortion. you should really
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  • MichelleAppleMichelleApple member
    you have to think about which outcome you can most deal with and if you have any health issues that might conflict this pregnancy as well. every woman has their choice but not every choice
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  • daenerysdragondaenerysdragon

    I did decide that having an abortion is what's best for both the baby and me. I really do want to have the baby, but I know that there's just too much at stake for me to really take that risk. Thank you guys for supporting me.

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