VENT! So sick of the looks of pity

EMLDF · March 2013

Hi - I'm mostly a lurker here. Having my first baby via C-Section in about two weeks because she is breech. At first I was disappointed and nervous but I'm just so excited now to meet her and feel fortunate that I know ahead of time that I'm having one, rather than getting one after lots of labor.

ANYWAY - I just needed to vent because almost every time I tell someone that I'm scheduled for a C-Section that look at me like I'm a poor wounded animal - rather than the excited first time mom that I am! Just so sick of getting pity! I don't feel bad for myself. I'm ridiculously happy and excited to be having a healthy baby girl in two weeks! Its like people think having a CS takes away from the fact that its still a BIRTH and I'm becoming a MOTHER! So frustrating!!!

alizabethanne · March 2013

I agree! I got so many "I am so sorry" comments when I told ppl I ended up having an unplanned csection. It made me feel disappointed in how it went rather than be super happy I had a totally perfect and healthy baby. Someone even said I didnt ac

kennazebrowsky · March 2013

Do not let them get you down. Your Dr knows what is best for you and the baby's health and if a c-section is the safest delivery than that is what it is.

People can be so rude sometimes. Congrats you are almost there

2u2wow · March 2013

i felt the same way - i had an emerg csection with my first and then a planned with my second...when people would look at me like oh that's too bad i'd reply ' are you kidding! i get to walk in on the date and know when my baby's coming! it'll be so ni

magdalina.h · March 2013

I've never had that type of reaction.

AEN1029 · March 2013

2u2wow:
i felt the same way - i had an emerg csection with my first and then a planned with my second...when people would look

EMLDF · March 2013

Teacher Clark:
Perhaps it's how you carry yourself or how you approach it. I have never had that reaction and I hang out with

EMLDF · March 2013

2u2wow:
i felt the same way - i had an emerg csection with my first and then a planned with my second...when people would look

EMLDF · March 2013

alizabethanne:
I agree! I got so many "I am so sorry" comments when I told ppl I ended up having an unplanned csection. It mad

kpearse99 · March 2013

I do think that some people think that having C isn't a "real" birth. And that can be hurtful, but I also think that a lot people maybe offer their condolenses to the fact that you have to have major surgery, not that you can't have your baby thr

margeincharge3 · March 2013

How are you certain you're having a c/s? If you're 2 weeks out your baby still has time to flip. I know women whose babies flipped right before their due date. It is less common after 37 weeks but not impossible.

I'm not saying she will definite

EMLDF · March 2013

margeincharge3:
How are you certain you're having a c/s? If you're 2 weeks out your baby still has time to flip. I know women

EMLDF · March 2013

Teacher Clark:
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TX-Bride · March 2013

Why do you feel you have to elaborate? I am going with an elective csection, it's no one's business why I am doing an elective csection.

margeincharge3 · March 2013

EMLDF:
margeincharge3:

EMLDF · March 2013

TX-Bride:
Why do you feel you have to elaborate? I am going with an elective csection, it's no one's business why I am doing a

TX-Bride · March 2013

EMLDF:

TX-Bride:

mlf625 · March 2013

I happily chose my first c/s and turned down a VBA2C with my third, so my approach when telling people I was having a c/s was confident - I still got the pitying comments/looks. They irritated the crap out of me, too. I wondered how well it

EMLDF · March 2013

margeincharge3:
EMLDF:

EMLDF · March 2013

mlf625:
I happily chose my first c/s and turned down a VBA2C with my third, so my approach when telling people I was having a

margeincharge3 · March 2013

EMLDF:
margeincharge3:

Surfergirl013 · March 2013

Hi ladies, a lurker from Sept'13 here... You will be seeing more of me:) I am 70% sure I am having a C-section and have been talking to my dr and lurking here to just educate myself. This OP has been my whole experience as well...people try to

JSabs09 · March 2013

Same thing happened to me because DD was breech. Ignore them. You have a great attitude already. I always said there are pros and cons to both a vaginal birth and c section. Go with your positive attitude. Things happen.Good luck! Here's to a happy health

WhitWed · March 2013

I find people comment the most about things they don't understand or did differently. Passing judgement of any kind helps a person validate and rationalize their own life choices, which is human nature, so I try and think of that when I hear comment

stardust317 · March 2013

I've never had a vaginal birth, so I have nothing to compare it too.

My 2 scheduled csections were AWESOME! I would never take it back, and my recovery was much easier than some people who have had vaginal births. Just ignore t

SweetPeaK26 · March 2013

I'm just wondering boards, but I wanted to say congrats!

Just to maybe give you another way to take their pity, it could just be because you are having to have surgery period. I feel bad for pretty much anyone who says that they are about to

bridein08 · March 2013

magdalina.h:
I've never had that type of reaction.

This. I was happy to have a cesarean, though and I thi

darrahmccall · March 2013

Yes I do get looks of pity! I had someone very excitedly tell me our hospital will be doing vbacs now. I said no, I'm not interested. She was so dissapointed it made me laugh! She sarcastically said well whatever makes you less anxious. I said it doesn't

almostjennifer · March 2013

I've given birth both ways and would take a C/S HANDS DOWN any day of the week. When I told people about my 3rd child being a planned C/S, I was pretty happy about it.

- no awful contractions

- no frantic rush to the hospital

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