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Waiting month 3

tr1sh77tr1sh77 member
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Hi!

I'm new to do this, and looking for encouraging words I guess.

After several failed IVF's my husband and I have decided to adopt!  We have done all the paperwork and have finished our homestudy and officially waiting for DIA.  I thought the paperwork was stressful but the wait is killing me!  I know it could take a lot of time but would anybody mind sharing how they handled the wait and their actual wait time until they were match.  We are going through an agency and I guess you could say I have little patience!

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  • Rachel SonnierRachel Sonnier member
    5 months waiting, and just trying to stay busy. I didn't find it hard at all, at first...but it's getting harder now that we are approaching the 6 month mark. But like you, I know we are probably in for a long wait, and others here have been waiting over
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  • edaireedaire member
    I completely understand your feelings. After the paperwork and the home study I was SO anxious. I didn't think I could make it through the waiting period!! It's by far been the hardest part for me. After a while the anxiety and impatience went away and I
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    3 months, give or take. For the most part we acted like we weren't even adopting, just lived our lives. I would sometimes get excited or anxious if I visited boards like this and heard about placements, or long waits. We started gearing up getting stuff f
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  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    The first several months were the hardest, I think after that you get use to it , if that's possible! Hang In there.
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • orange1414orange1414 member

    We're in month 10 of waiting. It's hard. I'm a shopper and a planner, so I have been very, very slowly working on the nursery and buying baby gear. But, many are not comfortable doing this. 

    We also plan vacations (fully refundable) that we

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  • miss071311miss071311 member

    we haven't even been waiting a full month and i feel like i'm going crazy waiting for 'the call.'  i check my email constantly and whenever my phone rings, i feel myself getting a little excited, only to find out it's the same annoying solici

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  • kfourcatkfourcat member

    I could have written this myself. We are only on month 2 and I'm going nuts. It probably doesn't help that 3 of my husband's cousins just announced their pregnancies, and one of my best friends is pregnant. 

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  • tr1sh77tr1sh77 member

    Sounds like we have a lot in common.  I'm in the same boat with my best friend being pregnant.  I know I am very jealous of it and I try very hard to be supportive but some days it's so hard to hear every detail about her pregnancy (bad frien

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  • orangecupcakeorangecupcake member

    We waited just about 5.5 months from active status to match. 

    I kept busy by getting the nursery ready and taking advantage of being a childless couple - going to movies and dinners. I also baked a lot :)

     

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  • Allie-JoAllie-Jo member
    I was born impatient, so this is kinda torture. I've done my best to keep busy...lately its been nursery stuff, but crocheting a full sized blanket was a good project. One thing we also did was, once we hit 1 month waiting, we skiped church one Sunday,
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  • erinmc1erinmc1 member

    We waited 15 months before being matched.  Now, we are in the waiting for labor stage, and that's bad too.  It's all anxiety and impatience.  But you realize how strong you are, and you get to find out what else makes you happy, because

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  • kfourcatkfourcat member
    These are all good ideas. While waiting, we have got the nursery ready, found a day care, lined up a pediatrician and took a baby care class. Now I'm making a list of all the stuff around the house I want to do before baby comes. 
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